|
|
本帖最后由 amaymei 于 2015-9-10 10:36 编辑
回溯一下假期里的事,让我真的是觉得lucy不用我管太多了。
在对待lucy玩和学的问题上,我其实就是一个左右摇摆比较讨厌的妈妈。一方面不想让lucy单只会闷头学习,要劳逸结合。比如主动给人家介绍电子游戏(今年假期继续欧陆风云,而且开始玩上英文版的。为了游戏过程更完美,假期还添了个新笔记本)、没事拉着人家看美剧、玩扑克牌.....。另一方面又变脸成一个严厉家长,担心她是不是玩多了。
下面是lucy给我写的一封信。先说一下背景:
lucy在床上看小说,看得乐出了声,我很不合时宜的说,“你最近是不是太放松了,我看你没怎么学习吧,学校布置的7篇周记,这还有半个月就开学了,你能写完吗?”
lucy rolled her eyes (最近经常性动作):“现在我不想跟你说,跟你说你一定会生气的,回头我会给你一个答复。”
“什么情况?这算什么呀?”我心里暗暗嘀咕着,总算是没发作。
后来晚一些的时候我就收到了这封信。
---------------------
(忘写抬头直接正文)
I think you are being too nervous. I can't really blame you because you are my mom. It's your DUTY to get NERVOUS. The thingy is I'm not nervous. I know what I am doing. And the thingy about not being able to control myself is ridiculous. I have always been able to control myself. I mean always. Like what I have told you before. I could think as two persons at the same time which makes self-controlling a lot easier (The first and only time I had trouble with self-controlling but I succeeded anyway was when I had my first crush on someone) all right ,enough!
what I really want to say is I'm not a kid anymore. You have respected that in many ways and I am forever grateful. But you have to believe that I can handle the things on my own. I have faith in myself, why can't you? I am walking down an endless road in the dark. I have no way of knowing where it might end. whether the turns I make are right or wrong. You have walked this path once before and you wish to help. I understand that. But how do you know this path hasn't changed over time. How do you know my path would be the same as yours. I could make mistakes and take a wrong turn, but so could you. Some paths need to be taken alone. Some paths wants to be taken alone. I want to win my own battles ,make my own mistakes, stamble along the dark road on my own embracing glory and shame.
This might seem a bit far fetched. But here is the key point ( this is the thingy I said you"ll be mad about . Because It 's gonna sound a bit rude): Hey , I know what I am doing . And It's all going pretty well so far. So would you PLEASE leave me to do it?
Yours Sincerely
Your daughter lucy
PS: I advise you to read it over and OVER.
PPS: I've decided my name is lucy after all.
PPPS: After you have read this. I think you'll understand why I don't want write diaries. THIS is my normal way of saying things. The I-want-a-high-score way is ridiculous.
--------------------
好吧,很礼貌的青春独立宣言,我接受并深深为她叫好。
|
|