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说说和老师沟通那些事儿

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发表于 2009-12-14 17:42:27 | 只看该作者
长经验了.还真不知怎样问老师孩子的情况,也担心老师太忙,问了她会烦.
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发表于 2009-12-14 18:57:55 | 只看该作者

难得楼主那么用功。
从沟通的目的、技巧和效果来看,如果以100分为标准,可以得85到90分。
以下摘录两篇相关文章,仅供参考。



A Parent's Guide to School Involvement

收录日期:2007年10月14日, 22:44:26


This guide was developed to help parents and communities become more involved in their children’s education.

Why do schools need parent and community support?

Thirty years of research clearly shows that parent and community involvement in schools improves student achievement. To reach their potential, students need parents and the community to take an active role in their education.
Schools are working hard to provide a high quality education for every child. But they can't do it alone. Parent and community involvement is critical to creating great schools.

What can I do to be involved?

There are many ways parents, other adults who play an important role in a child's life, and community groups can be involved with children's education at home, at school and in the community.

What can I do at school?

As a parent, or an adult who plays an important role in the life of a child, your involvement in your child's education at school and at home shows your child that you value education. Teachers can see that you care about your children's learning. You can provide teachers with the most reliable source of information about your child. The partnership between you and your child's teacher is powerful.


Here are some ways you can be involved in your child's education each year at school:
  • Make a date with the teacher to visit your child's classroom. Are the kids busy learning, exploring and asking questions? Does the teacher draw them in?
  • Go to parent-teacher conferences. If the school doesn't have them, meet with your child's teachers. Ask how your child is doing and review his work.
  • Join the PTA or other parent group. Go to school events, like back-to-school night. As a group, see how you can help the school reach its goals.
  • Stay up-to-date on school policies, schedules and rules. Ask about opportunities to participate in the development of school policies.
  • Make sure that your child is learning what she needs to know to meet the standards set for her grade level.
  • Find a teacher or counselor you feel comfortable talking to about your child. Talk about the courses she should take to reach her goals. Do they match what the standards say she should be learning? Will they prepare her for college and a career?
  • Check your school's Web site regularly.
  • Contact your child's teacher or counselor if you have any concerns about what's going on with your child at school.
How can my community be involved in my child's school?Here are some ways communities, parents and teachers can work together to provide a high quality education to all of their children:
  • Establish school-business partnerships. Schools and business can work together to prepare students for further education and for life as productive members of their communities.
  • Employers can grant parents leave to attend school meetings, conferences, or to volunteer in the school.
  • Engage in activities to better meet the needs of children and their families. For example, the county health department can schedule regular visits to the school health clinic. Social service workers can meet with school counselors. After-school program providers can operate homework clubs utilizing textbooks and other materials provided by the school.
  • Establish and operate a mentoring program for "at risk" students through the involvement of volunteers from community, civic and religious organizations, local businesses, or the Chamber of Commerce.
  • Check out public libraries, which are strong educational partners. They can sponsor story hours for preschoolers and their parents, special programs that motivate children to read, or specialized evening topics of interest to parents.
  • Ask businesses, PTA's, churches and civic organizations to provide valuable services for schools. Many are excellent sources of volunteers, and many sponsor evening or after-school tutoring programs for students who need extra help, organize drives to collect school supplies for needy students, and raise funds for scholarships.
  • Recommend that schools in your community remain open during the evening and on weekends to allow parents and neighbors to use the library, playground, computers and other equipment. Let local groups hold their meetings and special events at the school.
  • Recruit retirees to volunteer in the schools and to share their experiences and expertise on relevant topics. Retirees have much to contribute to schools.
For more information on parent and community involvement in schools:
How to Help Your Child Succeed, published by National PTA.
Family School Partnership Program, External Partnerships and Advocacy, National Education Association, 202-822-7446.
Parents Are Powerful, published by the Center for Law and Education.
106 Ways Parents Can Help Students Achieve, published by the American Association of School Administrators, available in English and Spanish.
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This guide is a joint project of NEA and National PTA.





                                    Tips to Communicate Effectively with Teachers
                                               By DR. SAM GOLDSTEIN AND DR. SYDNEY ZENTALL

收录日期:2006年1月4日, 8:59:18


One of the most important roles parents can play in their child's education is to form a connection between their family and their child's teachers. When a new school year starts, attend back to school night to meet teachers. This is an opportunity to obtain an overview of how the teacher manages the class and what will be expected of your child. Listen carefully and ask questions. Use this meeting as an opportunity to understand how and when homework will be assigned, what it will involve, and how you can best communicate with your child's teachers.

Clear, Timely Communication


We cannot emphasize too strongly the importance of clear, timely communication in regard to homework. If your child has a history of struggling with learning or homework, we urge you to request a brief meeting with your child's teacher, specifically to discuss homework. In addition to phone calls and e-mails, face-to-face meetings, though occurring less frequently, may be your most effective means of developing an efficient communication system. It is critical that these brief meetings are initiated early in the school year. When meetings are held, be punctual and respect the teacher's time limits. Keep in mind the following guidelines:
  • Be prepared. Bring samples of your child's homework you would like to discuss. Begin the conference with a positive comment.
  • Be a good listener. Make sure you understand what is being said and take notes.
  • Be honest. If you are struggling, say so. Do not blame anyone for homework problems. Focus on process and solutions.
  • Ask questions and accept suggestions. Keep in mind that everyone wants what is best for your child.

Daily Home Notes


In some situations a daily home note can be an effective means of communication concerning homework between school and home. Daily home notes, sometimes referred to as daily report cards, can be effective for students experiencing homework problems. Such home notes provide an opportunity for parents to communicate with teachers and more closely monitor their child's daily school progress. Home notes can vary in detail. Most teachers maintain a file of different types of notes that can be used for specific problems. Home notes can be easily modified to meet each child's needs. To encourage your child to improve in school, it is important for you to emphasize to your child the role they play in bringing the note to and from school.

Although such notes can be quite helpful, at time they can also be harmful to the child. Nothing is more demeaning to a child struggling in school than to receive a negative note day after day. If a child can't meet classroom expectations, perhaps a new goal needs to be set that is more in line with the child's immediate ability.


Homework Tied to School Progress


We cannot over-emphasize the importance of communication between parents and teachers about student progress. If your child is struggling with homework, there is a good chance your child is also struggling with class work. It is your role as a parent to understand why your child may be having problems and what you and the school together can do to help.


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 楼主| 发表于 2009-12-14 20:00:52 | 只看该作者

回复 #12 times 的帖子

谢谢转的长文,学习了,惊喜地发现我居然做得还不错。不过,这要感谢女儿的老师们,给了我沟通的机会。可能很多的家长,连见老师的面都殊为不易,要想顺利沟通,确实有困难呢。
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发表于 2009-12-14 21:58:54 | 只看该作者
原帖由 candyxiao020 于 2009-12-14 14:44 发表
对我家女儿,我是有点小自信的。我家女儿,心理安全感极好,适应性强。入学前,除了没学拼音,数学学过珠心算(幼儿园的特色教育,在我极力反对之下,女儿遗憾地表示学得不好),语文已经过了独立阅读关,到小学开学,女儿正好读完了《窗边的小豆豆》和《长袜子皮皮》、《淘气包埃米尔》,怀揣着对巴学园的憧憬和对皮皮、埃米尔的惺惺相惜,成了一年级的小学生。
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不到6岁,就能看这些长篇了,真是佩服啊。有什么经验?
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发表于 2009-12-14 22:25:00 | 只看该作者
原帖由 candyxiao020 于 2009-12-14 17:26 发表
最普遍的,是觉得孩子在学校受关注不够,希望老师能多点关注自己的孩子。这个,大家都理解。我也时常这么希望。大家都这么想,一班几十个孩子,估计送的不在少数,这老师关注谁不关注谁呢?办法其实就一个,让老师看到你的特别,从家长到孩子,都可以。比如,像我前面说的,向老师显示自己对孩子的重视(老师最讨厌不管孩子的家长),和自己对教育的小小看法、或者经常请教老师一些教育的问题,和老师形成良好的互动,时常汇报孩子在家的趣事和进步等等,总之,要让老师体会到家长对她工作的支持和肯定。最最管用的,还是孩子的表现。面对几十个孩子,老师的工作量是可以想象的(我家一个,我还经常被搞崩溃),她通常只会注意到两头的孩子,中间的,不突出也没什么状况,老师哪还有心思一个个细细管来?所以,最实在的办法,是让孩子有些小小的特长。现在孩子都聪明,才艺也多,只要机灵活泼、大方得体,老师多少都是会注意到的。


这段写得特好
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16#
发表于 2009-12-14 23:48:14 | 只看该作者
楼主讲的真好

和老师沟通真的需要技巧

其实大多数老师都是通情达理,也是认真负责的。

但我确实见过一些父母,自以为自己的理论很先进,简直可以做孩子老师的老师了。

于是和老师的沟通就会以失败告终

因为他从来不替老师着想,高高在上,满嘴大道理。

佩服一下楼主

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发表于 2009-12-15 09:09:53 | 只看该作者
支持楼主的观点,老师喜欢重视孩子教育的家长,往往忽视中间,重视两头,说白了就是中等生是老师最不关注的。作为家长,我们就是要让孩子“吸引老师的眼球”,哪怕是调皮捣蛋也比不闻不问强。

       不过,和老师沟通时要注意时间,老师也希望休息时间不要被工作干预,试想,一个班四五十位家长隔三岔五地打电话,老师也受不了啊。
   
      还有一个点感受,就是家长和老师沟通时一定要对自己的孩子持赞许的态度,不要一开口就是贬低批评,老师有时对孩子的印象也是来源于家长的。有些家长也许是谦虚,往往把自己的孩子贬得一钱不值,大家都知道教育的罗森塔尔效应,就是这个道理。

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judymama + 2 + 2 我很赞同。这点我需要改进。
candyxiao020 + 2 + 2 谢谢你的意见,期待更多更好的方法。

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发表于 2009-12-15 10:59:43 | 只看该作者
值得好好学习啊,我们目前中班,我跟老师沟通少之又少啊(早上不送晚上不接啊……),总是纠结在沟通时间方面。
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发表于 2009-12-15 11:37:28 | 只看该作者
呀,我们也快小学了,先向LZ学点,幼儿园基本没跟老师沟通过,我家小孩回家跟我说的最多是老师夸我乖,可我希望是棒而不是乖,给他讲不一样的卡梅啦,呵呵,不知还有别的方法,能促使小孩的想象力丰富或能引发小孩的奇思妙想,在此先谢谢了!
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发表于 2009-12-15 12:53:46 | 只看该作者
最怕与老师交流了,可是过年后宝宝也要准备上幼儿园啦,先学习一些。
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