杜曼论坛真是后浪推前浪,前浪消失在沙滩上

zhangzn

孩子好动，不看。我自己心态也不好，心焦。看来我要改变一下心态了

蕊蕊爱妈妈

我才在了解杜曼，觉得练练记忆力也不错。不知这位妈妈的曾用过的杜曼还在用吗，可以转卖给我吗

千荷

我想各父母这样认为：用杜曼是说能开发大脑的潜能，要是能认字阅读那是更好！那心态就会平和许多．

子墨妈妈

很多人问我是不是要把孩子培养成神童,我笑笑,因为我知道我不是,我只是希望能用这种方法活化他的大脑.所以我一直坚持着,一直摸索着.

小米爸爸

回头看看，这已是近来最大的争论了，杜曼与七田已无可避免的衰落了，孩子大了，有更多的事要考虑了，想起当年激烈的争论，有如过目烟云，呵呵，是该好好学习的时候了，是该重新研究的时候了，已在这里花了太多了的心血了，是言该抬头看更远的地方了，

倒真的应了君涵妈妈的一句话，杜曼后浪堆前浪，前浪消失在沙堆上，但不是真的消失了，是上了沙堆开始走路了，走向远方。。。。。。。。。

moondream3003

不要测试, 但我的儿子最爱测试, 不测试也不肯, 总是满有成功感地哈哈大笑.

我的儿子一出生回到家中便开始杜曼, 现在两岁三个月大, 两岁前已经会自己读一页一句, 每句不多于十个字的中及英文书,  将来还能吗, 不理也吧, 只要活一活动他的脑子就算了.

gajidouma

实在舍不得浪费我最近看的这本好书的精华，看到有人挖这个贴子出来，忍不住多贴一次：

检讨一下，你有这些迷思吗？

Myth:To promote the “best” brain development, infants & young children need the latest gadgets & gear.
Reality: Old-fashioned play & physical experiences offer the best opportunities for brain development.

Myth: Children have to be encouraged to learn.
Reality: Children are “hardwired” with a craving for discovery and learning. Forcing it – as well-intentioned as it might be – may unwittingly create a whole who learns to dislike learning.

Myth: Where sports are concerned, starting earlier is better.
Reality: The positive aspects of sports participation can be negated when the experience demands more than a child is ready for.

Myth: Children who are enrolled in organized sports are taught the skills needed to play.
Reality: Children are more often expected to jump right in and play – with or without the necessary skills.

Myth: The only way to ensure success in sport activities is to start playing sports early.
Reality: A child will derive far more benefit from first mastering the fundamentals of movement.

Myth: Standardized tests are an accurate measurement of a child’s intelligence.
Reality: There are many kinds of intelligence, and standardized tests fail to measure most of them.

Myth: An early emphasis on “academics” will ensure a more successful future.
Reality: A young child is not developmentally ready for traditional academics and learns more through play and exploration than through “skill-and-drill” and worksheets.

Myth: The sole purpose of a child’s education is to teach reading, writing, and ‘rithmetic.
Reality: A true education addresses the whole child – mind, body, and spirit.

Myth: To achieve Tiger Woods’s kind of success, children must specialize early.
Reality: Tiger Woods was a rare exception, and specialization can cause early burnout and keep children from discovering their true passions and talents.

Myth: Parents and other adults are responsible for giving children self-esteem.
Reality: Self-esteem can’t be bestowed!

Myth: Being able to compete in a “dog-eat-dog” world is a necessary characteristic for children.
Reality: The old-fashioned values will be more important to a child’s future than winning.

Myth: Downtime is wasted time.
Reality: Downtime is essential to a productive life.

Myth: Parents bear the full responsibility for a child’s future.
Reality: Today’s parents worry too much!

gajidouma

以下的话我自己忍不住读了好几遍，很有感触。

Many parents have been led to believe that if their child excels in school and in sports at a very early age, she or he will grow up to be a more successful adult. By getting a “head start,” their children will have an advantage in what they perceive to be a highly competitive world. The thinking goes:

• The road to success is through scoring goals and acing tests (the child with the most blue ribbons and the highest grades wins).

• By “accelerating” their children’s development, parents can ensure a more successful future for them.

• That as parents, they — and they alone — are responsible for determining their children’s futures.

• If they don’t do “whatever it takes,” their children will not succeed.

I call these well-intentioned but often misplaced expectations the “superkid” myths — defining success not in terms of happiness, but in terms of being better and having more than the other guy. The result of these myths is that no longer can children just be; they must do. Childhood today has become a dress rehearsal for adulthood, and, for many children, life has become a great big competition. A race to walk and talk earlier than the other infants.

To get into the best preschool. To be a star at Little League. To participate in the most activities. To excel. To win. To be the most “above-average” child in the history of children. To have a résumé, upon entrance into first grade, that will guarantee a place in the best high school, the best college, and later, in the best corporation/law firm/medical practice.

But what are kids really winning when they’re losing out on childhood? There are millions of adults out there who are tired of the rat race, and they didn’t start racing until they were at least in their twenties. How long can today’s children be expected to love life when they start racing before they’re even toddling?

The good news is that things are beginning to turn around. Many of today’s parents have begun to realize that they’ve taken on too much — and that maybe they needn’t worry so much. If you haven’t yet gathered the courage to step off the race track that life has become, or to simply change course — if you still worry that your child will fall behind, or won’t find him– or herself or a path to a worthy future — perhaps you can take comfort, if not from a trust in Mother Nature, then from the expertise of those who’ve studied such matters. Research confirms that babies are born with the desire to learn, to discover what they’re passionate about, and to achieve their goals.

There is also evidence that children who haven’t been over-pressured, over-nurtured, or overindulged have greater life skills than those who grow up having things done for or pushed upon them. And, best of all, much of children’s development is ensured and enhanced by play and physical activity!

tiantianma

断断续续坚持了一年，上幼儿园后就停止了。但这个网站曾经是让我如此心动的地方，现在偶尔也来看看，正如楼主所说的，以往的活跃份子现在很少出现了，估计是已经过了实施杜曼的黄金时间，在忙着给孩子报各种各样的班呢，哈哈。

回头看我孩子的过程，我认为像我这样的半吊子杜曼也是不错的，孩子各方面都比较优秀，尤其在数学比较出色，但当初他是非常不喜欢看点卡的，第一次看到20，我见他不喜欢就放弃了；隔了一段时间，又重新开始，学的可能多一些，但也没坚持多久，估计闪到60-70，不喜欢又放弃了；直到孩子在3岁多一点的时，我又拿点卡闪了一次，这一次也只闪到20多，再多了他看不出来点数，我也不强求，也就不在继续。虽然只经过了这样的练习，但孩子在日常的生活中，表现出对数学的强爱好，喜欢数数，计算，有趣的事情是孩子在4岁左右到了绘画敏感期，非常喜欢在纸上画点，画几个点就在旁边写上对应的数字，我觉得非常的神奇，一定是杜曼在潜移默化有了影响，毕竟过了一年的时间了，他竟然还记得。尽管我很少教孩子数学，但孩子的数学非常的出色（当然是与幼儿园的孩子相比了，比起这里的老前辈孩子还差的远了），我认为与杜曼训练是分不开的。

希望我的经验能给这里的妈妈有些启示。也希望能够将这个帖子顶置，或者新开个帖子，专门请原来的老网友来说明一下孩子现在的情况，也就是希望跟踪一下当时实施杜曼的孩子现在到底是什么样子，给现在这里的妈妈更好的参考和决策。

笑笑宝宝

不给doman泼冷水，也不在各位前辈面前班门弄斧。

关于阅读，我说的是纯文字阅读，结合我家笑的情况，想跟大家分享的是：

1.没有什么文字敏感期，只要方法对路，孩子就会感兴趣也就能学会。

2.识字和阅读要同时进行，先识好字再去阅读的方法非常不可取。

3.会阅读的孩子不会因为认了字的关系而影响到对图画的欣赏，阅读对孩子的观察、注意、记忆、思考、审美、推理等能力只会促进，不会拖什么后腿的。

4.孩子阅读的感觉和能力，不是内在发育的过程，不象是走路，只有到了一定年龄，这种能力才展现出来。什么时候展现，取决于你开始的早晚，跟她的内在发展无关。

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笑2岁开始会独立阅读纯文字读物，识字2000多个，现在快3岁了。不是用doamn学会的，因为她基本上是彻头彻尾的反doman的。