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【推荐】十三种常见的妨碍孩子的创造性思维的教育方式

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发表于 2006-6-21 21:52:33 | 只看该作者 回帖奖励 |倒序浏览 |阅读模式
<div twffan="done"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">创新精神体现孩子的活力,因此创造性思维体现孩子思维活动的生命力。创造不仅能产生物质财富,也能产生精神财富。一个创造性思维活跃的孩子,他</span>(<span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">她</span>)<span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">的内心世界和精神世界一定是丰富多采的。但是我们的教育方式往往会将孩子的创造性扼杀.下面是十三种常见的<span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">妨碍孩子的创造性思维的教育方式:</span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">事事都先把结果告诉孩子,是非曲直都“被编好程序”,孩子失掉了体验和探索的机会。</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done">(<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">看了</span>&lt;&lt;<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">体坛周报</span>&gt;&gt;2005<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">年</span>6<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">月</span>6<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">日的报道,感到很心痛!不是因为中国青年足球队</span>2:0<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">输给美国队,而是队员们对德国籍教练的安排有意见:“让我们收回来打,但怎么收回来却没说。卢琳和陈涛往什么位置收?中前卫怎么补都没布置?有球了怎么打?打哪个点?这些都不说……”这是典型的在“事事都先要告知:应该做什么?应该怎么做?”的教育环境下长大的孩子。一旦长辈只给他们一个大的原则,而不明确地规定他们“必须做什么?务必怎么做?”他们就会手足无措、乱了方寸。解除束缚,反而不自在;有了自由,反而恐慌。习惯于被别人“编程序”的孩子,何来探索?何来创造?没有探索,就没有创造;没有探索精神,也就没有创造精神。因此,在很多时候,即使家长明知是错误的,也要鼓励孩子探索。</span>)</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">不允许失败,以失败为耻,剥夺孩子失败的权利</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done">(<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">创造不可能一蹴而就。因此,没有失败就没有成功,这是失败的价值。每个人都不可避免地要经历失败。失败并不可耻,也不可怕。可怕的是不敢面对失败。失败可以锻炼孩子的心理承受能力,提高孩子的反省能力。不敢面对失败,就无法去创造。因此,孩子需要失败;家长应把失败的权利还给孩子。</span>)</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">什么事情都要求尽善尽美,不允许任何一点纰漏</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done">(<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">完美主义往往无意识地扼杀着创造性。即使成年人的创造过程也是漫长的,需要不断地修正和改善;孩子的创造,更可能包含着无数的幼稚和天真,家长的完美主义会把孩子的创造扼杀在摇篮里。</span>)</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symb
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发表于 2006-6-21 23:39:41 | 只看该作者
好久没看见这么好的文章了,实践起来太难,也很难把握一个度的问题!
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发表于 2006-6-22 00:01:30 | 只看该作者
<div twffan="done"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">事事都先把结果告诉孩子,是非曲直都“被编好程序”,孩子失掉了体验和探索的机会。</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done">(<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">看了</span>&lt;&lt;<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">体坛周报</span>&gt;&gt;2005<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">年</span>6<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">月</span>6<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">日的报道,感到很心痛!不是因为中国青年足球队</span>2:0<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">输给美国队,而是队员们对德国籍教练的安排有意见:“让我们收回来打,但怎么收回来却没说。卢琳和陈涛往什么位置收?中前卫怎么补都没布置?有球了怎么打?打哪个点?这些都不说……”这是典型的在“事事都先要告知:应该做什么?应该怎么做?”的教育环境下长大的孩子。一旦长辈只给他们一个大的原则,而不明确地规定他们“必须做什么?务必怎么做?”他们就会手足无措、乱了方寸。解除束缚,反而不自在;有了自由,反而恐慌。习惯于被别人“编程序”的孩子,何来探索?何来创造?没有探索,就没有创造;没有探索精神,也就没有创造精神。因此,在很多时候,即使家长明知是错误的,也要鼓励孩子探索。</span>)</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">如果是很危险的事情(例如死亡)你会让孩子去体验吗?<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"><font face="Tahoma" size="2"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">不允许失败,以失败为耻,剥夺孩子失败的权利</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done">(<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">创造不可能一蹴而就。因此,没有失败就没有成功,这是失败的价值。每个人都不可避免地要经历失败。失败并不可耻,也不可怕。可怕的是不敢面对失败。失败可以锻炼孩子的心理承受能力,提高孩子的反省能力。不敢面对失败,就无法去创造。因此,孩子需要失败;家长应把失败的权利还给孩子。</span>)<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><font color="#ff0000" size="3"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">如果孩子因此而“享受”失败,安于失败现状呢?</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><font color="#ff0000" size="3"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">什么事情都要求尽善尽美,不允许任何一点纰漏</span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><font color="#ff0000" size="3"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">如果孩子因此而“享受”失败,安于失败现状呢?</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in;

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参与人数 1威望 +4 金币 +4 收起 理由
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发表于 2006-6-22 08:19:25 | 只看该作者
呵呵,这确实是很难把握的事情,需要家长有很高的引导水平。
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发表于 2006-6-22 08:39:10 | 只看该作者
非常棒的经验帖,不过有很多情况下,需要和我们中国的现实结合起来,不能够死搬教条.
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发表于 2006-6-22 08:48:48 | 只看该作者
<div class="signature" id="signature886198">没有教不好的孩子 只有不懂教的家长!</div>
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发表于 2006-6-22 09:19:48 | 只看该作者
值得学习,但实践起来有点难啊!
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发表于 2006-6-26 13:04:18 | 只看该作者
教育孩子方法在地父母,父母首先要提高自己。
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发表于 2006-6-26 20:19:13 | 只看该作者
<table style="TABLE-LAYOUT: fixed; WORD-WRAP: break-word" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="100%" border="0"><tr><td valign="top"><div class="postcontent" id="show886089">好久没看见这么好的文章了</div></td></tr></table>
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发表于 2006-6-26 20:24:35 | 只看该作者
[quote]明天穿袈裟+2006-06-22 00:01-->引用:明天穿袈裟 @ 2006-06-22 00:01 <div twffan="done"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">事事都先把结果告诉孩子,是非曲直都“被编好程序”,孩子失掉了体验和探索的机会。</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done">(<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">看了</span>&lt;&lt;<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">体坛周报</span>&gt;&gt;2005<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">年</span>6<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">月</span>6<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">日的报道,感到很心痛!不是因为中国青年足球队</span>2:0<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">输给美国队,而是队员们对德国籍教练的安排有意见:“让我们收回来打,但怎么收回来却没说。卢琳和陈涛往什么位置收?中前卫怎么补都没布置?有球了怎么打?打哪个点?这些都不说……”这是典型的在“事事都先要告知:应该做什么?应该怎么做?”的教育环境下长大的孩子。一旦长辈只给他们一个大的原则,而不明确地规定他们“必须做什么?务必怎么做?”他们就会手足无措、乱了方寸。解除束缚,反而不自在;有了自由,反而恐慌。习惯于被别人“编程序”的孩子,何来探索?何来创造?没有探索,就没有创造;没有探索精神,也就没有创造精神。因此,在很多时候,即使家长明知是错误的,也要鼓励孩子探索。</span>)</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">如果是很危险的事情(例如死亡)你会让孩子去体验吗?<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"><font face="Tahoma" size="2"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">不允许失败,以失败为耻,剥夺孩子失败的权利</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体" twffan="done">(<span lang="ZH-CN" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">创造不可能一蹴而就。因此,没有失败就没有成功,这是失败的价值。每个人都不可避免地要经历失败。失败并不可耻,也不可怕。可怕的是不敢面对失败。失败可以锻炼孩子的心理承受能力,提高孩子的反省能力。不敢面对失败,就无法去创造。因此,孩子需要失败;家长应把失败的权利还给孩子。</span>)<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><font color="#ff0000" size="3"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">如果孩子因此而“享受”失败,安于失败现状呢?</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><font color="#ff0000" size="3"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done"></span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol" twffan="done"><span style="mso-list: Ignore" twffan="done">·<span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'" twffan="done"></span></span></span> <span lang="ZH-CN" style="FONT-FAMILY: 楷体" xml:lang="ZH-CN" twffan="done">什么事情都要求尽善尽美,不允许任何一点纰漏</span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .75in"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; TEXT-IND
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