我该怎么办呢？

青梅冰酒

<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">昨天，我被自己八岁的女儿气得流下了眼泪。今天上午，她自己背着书包上学去了，我跟在她后面，看着她走了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">20</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">分钟的路，进了校门，我才离开，但心里还是难受极了！</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 37.5pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">在幼儿园时</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">我们的关系是多么的亲密</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">女儿会把一天的趣事迫不急待地和我说，我和她谈心，我们一块玩，一起学琴，一起开心，她说妈妈是我最好的朋友，我也自认为是个不错的妈妈！</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">自从上了学以后，有了学习任务，情况就大不相同了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">她是一个马虎粗心孩子</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">动作比较慢</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">很懒散，在幼儿时期，因为她的口语发展和组织能力上的优点掩盖她这些不好的地方，因为她的满不在乎，作业，考试不能完成，她不怕老师，为了纠正她作业慢的问题，我用了许多许多的方法，可以说我成功了，她的速度已经能从最后一名到了班上的前十名（她们班有</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">53</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">人）。成绩也不错，还被评为“三好生”。但是我却觉得这种成功让我不怎么也开心不起来，对于她这种孩子，恩威并施，威对她比较有作用，发火，打骂时有发生，想想很后悔，可是不这么做，让她自己去改，那要等到什么时候呢？我常和她的老师联系，我们都知道她是个懒惰的孩子，如果没有人去推动她，她是不会自己前进的，但是这样做的代价就是让她讨厌我，让我们的关系变糟，她的老师也很负责，曾对我说过这样的话，你想让她成为什么样的人，我也对她说过这样的忧虑，老师告诉我孩子的想法还不成熟，到时候她就理解你了！我想的是她今年是二年级</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">如果不在这两年把好的学习习惯养成</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">这对今后的学习会有很大的影响</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">所以我这段时间又要和她的不认真做斗争，又要开始新一轮的痛苦，昨天我们发生了激烈的冲突，她非常固执，看着她哭的样子</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">我心里矛盾极了，我要的是一个快乐的孩子，可是我现在松下来，她以后长大了也能这么快乐吗？我真的有点动摇了，我该怎么办呢？</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> 一个需要帮助的妈妈</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi

bk3547218

每个孩子的情况都 不同,要有耐心,

beibeibei

[quote]青梅冰酒+2006-06-06 09:06-->引用:青梅冰酒 @ 2006-06-06 09:06 <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </span></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">昨天，我被自己八岁的女儿气得流下了眼泪。今天上午，她自己背着书包上学去了，我跟在她后面，看着她走了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">20</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">分钟的路，进了校门，我才离开，但心里还是难受极了！</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 37.5pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">在幼儿园时</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">我们的关系是多么的亲密</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;">女儿会把一天的趣事迫不急待地和我说，我和她谈心，我们一块玩，一起学琴，一起开心，她说妈妈是我最好的朋友，我也自认为是个不错的妈妈！</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">自从上了学以后，有了学习任务，情况就大不相同了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">她是一个马虎粗心孩子</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">动作比较慢</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">很懒散，在幼儿时期，因为她的口语发展和组织能力上的优点掩盖她这些不好的地方，因为她的满不在乎，作业，考试不能完成，她不怕老师，为了纠正她作业慢的问题，我用了许多许多的方法，可以说我成功了，她的速度已经能从最后一名到了班上的前十名（她们班有</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">53</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">人）。成绩也不错，还被评为“三好生”。但是我却觉得这种成功让我不怎么也开心不起来，对于她这种孩子，恩威并施，威对她比较有作用，发火，打骂时有发生，想想很后悔，可是不这么做，让她自己去改，那要等到什么时候呢？我常和她的老师联系，我们都知道她是个懒惰的孩子，如果没有人去推动她，她是不会自己前进的，但是这样做的代价就是让她讨厌我，让我们的关系变糟，她的老师也很负责，曾对我说过这样的话，你想让她成为什么样的人，我也对她说过这样的忧虑，老师告诉我孩子的想法还不成熟，到时候她就理解你了！我想的是她今年是二年级</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">如果不在这两年把好的学习习惯养成</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">这对今后的学习会有很大的影响</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">所以我这段时间又要和她的不认真做斗争，又要开始新一轮的痛苦，昨天我们发生了激烈的冲突，她非常固执，看着她哭的样子</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体">,</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">我心里矛盾极了，我要的是一个快乐的孩子，可是我现在松下来，她以后长大了也能这么快乐吗？我真的有点动摇了，我该怎么办呢？</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">

fchn608

哈哈，无独有偶，俺家的公子也是一个懒孩子。生活上，俺和家里的阿姨把他照顾得很好。连书包都是大人负责整理。学习上，每天要督促他完成作业。弹琴时，需要不时地提醒和鼓励，因为稍不留神，他会因为太难、弹不好而流眼泪，然后不弹了。让他放弃，他还非学不可踢足球，慢吞吞，又不下功夫练技术。教练以走开，他就偷懒。。。。。。。。还有很多。。。。。这都是俺眼里的儿子。每每这个时候，总会有一个声音告诉俺：“他不是你看到的样子“，或者，“还有很多你视而不见的优点你没注意，只注意了孩子的缺点“，“他之所以这样，都是你的问题而不是孩子的问题“家长们口口声声地说想让孩子快活，却也放不下！所以很累！！！！！慢慢来，先把自己的问题改了、解决了，再帮助孩子！！！！！

tina_rain

我家孩子也一样,常常打骂了他,看他难过的样子,自已比他更痛苦

wangqi123456

[quote=田田,2006-06-06 20:50]没有种不好的庄嫁,只有不会种庄稼的人,孩子就像一颗颗小苗,需要和适的阳光雨水和土壤,建议你调整一下自己的心态,如果再这样逼孩子那么孩子可能更会让你&quot;讨厌&quot;,对待孩子我觉得应该是&quot;静等花开&quot;,我们只去教育,不要想着孩子会出什么成绩,出什么成果,尤其像这种粗心马虎的孩子一般在小学是不会有太出类拔萃的表现，因为小学强调的是生字、速算等，只要孩子维持在一个比较不错的水平就行了，到了初中这样的孩子反倒上升的潜力较大。我们都是爱孩子的家长，但一定要会爱，推荐你看一本好书《斯宾塞的快乐说得不错教成什么样的孩子,很大程度上,是父母强加给孩子的,

青梅冰酒

　　听了大家的话，还有不少朋友对我的劝说，我也在不断地反省，改进自己的教育方法，希望我能找到更好的方法，我的女儿也能找回她的快乐！真的很感谢大家！

亮亮的爸爸

我觉得吧，都是国家教育体制造成的！我小时候可是个快乐童年，父母从来没有逼迫我做什么的。