【原创】 敞开心门

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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt 21pt; TEXT-INDENT: 146.15pt; mso-char-indent-count: 10.4; mso-para-margin-left: 2.0gd"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">妈妈和爸爸商量事儿。珑珑过来了，她把幼儿画报往妈妈手里一塞，然后钻到妈妈的怀里说：“妈妈，我要听大灰狼的故事。”<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">“大人们在商量事儿，你别吵，一边玩去。” 爸爸对珑珑说。<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">“不嘛，我就要妈妈给我讲大灰狼的故事。”珑珑撒起了娇。<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">如果你还赖在这里，爸爸妈妈可就生气了</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">！” 珑珑爸在一旁说道。<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">“你们就顾自己，不理珑珑。”珑珑不高兴地噘起了嘴。<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 1.5; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">“珑珑，爸爸妈妈有急事要商量，可你在这一闹呢，爸爸妈妈就商量不成了。妈妈也很想给珑珑讲故事，只是现在忙，没时间。我该怎么办呢？”妈妈和蔼地对珑珑说。<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 1.5; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">“那妈妈有时间再给珑珑讲故事，好吗？”珑珑说。<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 1.5; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">“好的。珑珑真乖。”<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 28pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 13.5pt" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">珑珑爸传达给珑珑的都是“你”的信息。“你别吵！”“你还赖在这里。”“你”的信息对孩子是命令和指责，所以引起珑珑的抗拒和不满。珑珑妈传达给珑珑的却是“我”的信息。“我很想给你讲故事。”“我很忙。” “我该怎么办呢？”“我”的信息把孩子当着平等的人，帮助孩子理解和体谅别人，孩子容易接受。<span lang="EN-US"></span></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; WORD-BREAK: break-all; TEXT-INDENT: 27.45pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; TEXT-ALIGN: left; mso-char-indent-count: 1.96; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-outline-level: 1" align="left"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ; mso-hansi-font-family: ; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">想起一则故事：有兄弟二人，年龄不过四、五岁，由于卧室的窗户整天都是密闭着，他们认为屋内太阴暗，看见外面灿烂的阳光，觉得十分羡慕。兄弟俩就商量说：</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ; mso-hansi-font-family: ; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">我们可以一起把外面的阳光扫一点进来。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ; mso-hansi-font-family: ; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">于是，兄弟两人拿着扫帚和畚箕，到阳台上去扫阳光。等到他们把畚箕搬到房间里的时候，里面的阳光就没有了。这样一而再再而三地扫了许多次，屋内还是一点阳光都没有。正在厨房忙碌的妈妈看见他们奇怪的举动，问道：</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ; mso-hansi-font-family: ; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">你们在做什么？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ; mso-hansi-font-family: ; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">他们回答说：</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ; mso-hansi-font-family: ; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">房间太暗了，我们要扫点阳光进来。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: ; mso-hansi-font-family: ; mso-font-kerning: 0pt">妈妈笑道：</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: ; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: black; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-bidi-font-family: 宋体; mso-ascii-fo

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非常认同楼主的观点。