【求助】我的儿子,我该怎么教育你才好?

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< class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><img src="http://www.etjy.com/images/smiles/confused.gif" border="0" onclick="javascript:window.open(this.src);" alt= style="CURSOR: pointer" onload="javascript:if(this.width>screen.width-500)this.style.width=screen.width-500;" /> 儿子四岁七个月了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">在幼儿园上中班</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">孩子两岁三个月就上了幼儿园</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">适应的非常快</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">在拖班和小班经常受到老师的表扬</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">小朋友们也很喜欢和他玩</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可从上中班开始就变得经常受批评</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">用老师的话来讲</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">就是所有的孩子上了中班都长大了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">而他却变小了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">. </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">拖班和小班时他真的是个不错的孩子</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">虽然在班里是年龄最小的一个</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可表现的却比别的孩子还好</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">学习也很好</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师教的他总是最快学会</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">对于孩子的表现我们越来越着急了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">真不知道他怎么变成这样了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">. </FONT></SPAN></FONT></P>
< class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">我们是三口之家</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">平时我和他爸爸都很忙</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">晚上从幼儿园回来</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">我都是忙着做饭</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">收拾</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他爸爸回来的很晚</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">很少管他</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他自己都是看看电视</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">玩会儿玩具</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">睡前我给他讲故事</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">有事忙了就放</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">MP3</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">给他听</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">近半年我发现他不愿意画画</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不愿意自己看书</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">总是让我给他讲</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">有时宁可自己呆着抱个毛绒玩具什么也不干</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">给他买的磁力棒他总是摆点简单的图案</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">然后就让我给他摆</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">很少自己发挥自己玩</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">星期天也是这样</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">玩具玩来玩去也就是那几样棍子棒子枪的</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不愿意动脑筋</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN></FONT></P>
< class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">在幼儿园老师反映</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他上课坐不住</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">总爱玩个什么</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">要不就是地上捡的小纸片什么的</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">要不就玩手</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">还经常前摇后晃的</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不好好听老师讲课</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">上绘画课把手画的乱七八糟</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师教的却没记住多少</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师经常训他</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他有点进步也经常表扬他</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可他的进步却很小</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">还经常倒退</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师训他他还大哭大叫的</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师也很头痛他怎么变成这样了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">以前小朋友也很喜欢他</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可现在很少有小朋友主动跟他玩</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">前几天幼儿园开联欢会</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">我们家长也去了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">中间有个节目是抽到签的小朋友可以再邀请一个小朋友上台表演唱歌</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">很多小朋友都被邀请了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">就是没人邀请他</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">一直到最后才有一个新来的小朋友邀请他了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">估计是那个小朋友刚来</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">还记不住其它小朋友的名字</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">而我儿子是经常被老师点名</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">所以记住了他的名字</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">更让人生气的是儿子上台后的表现</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">别的孩子站的好好的唱歌</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可他上台后又蹦又跳</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">好长时间都安静不下来</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">最后还摔倒了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">气得我和他爸爸都坐不住了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">非常难堪</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN></FONT></P>
< class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">上了中班后</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他们班又来了几个年龄比他小的孩子</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">都没有他的这种表现</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">还有我儿子特爱吃糖</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">每天下午去接他都得带糖</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">要不他就发脾气</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">回到家也不停的要糖吃</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">跟他讲道理都不听</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">我们怕吃多了糖不好</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">总是藏起来不给他</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可越这样他越要</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不给他就生气还打人</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">真是头痛死了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他现在怎么变成这样了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">有时我都想干脆都给他</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">看他有没有个够</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">是不是我们控制的结果</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">?</FONT></SPAN></FONT></P><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; 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剪剪风

关于吃糖的问题，我想你们还是来个硬性规定吧，每天只许吃多少块，吃完规定的后，无论他怎样耍赖，也不能给他。 性格问题，会不会是因为上幼儿园太早，那时候比较懂事，所以老师给他的关爱少一点呢，建议给老师沟通一下，让老师多赏识一下你的孩子，在家里，如果他有表现积极的方面，一定要及时指出，及时表扬。 <span><font face="Times New Roman">,看到你说的&ldquo;</span><span>别的孩子站的好好的唱歌</span><span><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span>可他上台后又蹦又跳</span><span><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span>好长时间都安静不下来</span><span><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span>最后还摔倒了&rdquo;，如果你们那里有感统训练，可以带孩子参加一下感统训练。 相信你的孩子会越变越好的。</span>

pengmama

感统训练是怎么个训练呢?以前我甚至怀疑他是不是有多动症,可后来发现他只有在幼儿园才这样,在家里他是一个很安静的孩子.

xianghaozhe

pengmama+2005-12-29 14:20-->引用:pengmama @ 2005-12-29 14:20 感统训练是怎么个训练呢?以前我甚至怀疑他是不是有多动症,可后来发现他只有在幼儿园才这样,在家里他是一个很安静的孩子.

如果你们附近没有专门的感统训练室，可以在家训练：四肢着地抬起头爬行；拍球；走平衡木（用小板凳接起来代替）；跳绳；跳羊角球；倒着走路；妈妈（爸爸）抱着孩子一起在地板（床上）翻滚；挠痒痒；睡觉前给孩子按摩（抚摩）全身等等，总之有很多啊，只有让孩子在家彻底放松，在幼儿园才能安静下来

rootstock

不要以为是你儿子的问题，可能是幼儿园的问题。你看看我的贴子，关于上学的那一贴，可能你也有相同的问题

liuxing

<font face="宋体">他不愿意画画<span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不愿意自己看书</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">总是让我给他讲</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">有时宁可自己呆着抱个毛绒玩具什么也不干</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">给他买的磁力棒他总是摆点简单的图案</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">然后就让我给他摆</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">很少自己发挥自己玩</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">星期天也是这样</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">玩具玩来玩去也就是那几样棍子棒子枪的</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不愿意动脑筋</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span lang="EN-US">这一点，跟我儿子很象，我也很头疼，不知道该怎么办？</span>

健乐宝

是不是他觉得在学校里缺少关注了呢？然后他越是想做些事情让别人关注他，结果却恰恰相反，于是就变成了“恶性循环”了呢？

popo

关注下！

人悄月依

看了你的贴,我觉得有几点,我说说,你不妨听听,对你有用的话可以试着改进一下,觉得没用的话就当耳旁风:<span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">一.&quot;我们是三口之家</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">平时我和他爸爸都很忙</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">晚上从幼儿园回来</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">我都是忙着做饭</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">收拾</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他爸爸回来的很晚</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">很少管他</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他自己都是看看电视</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">玩会儿玩具</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">睡前我给他讲故事</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">有事忙了就放</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">MP3</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">给他听</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.&quot;</span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US">我想家长陪孩子的时间太少了,是的,我知道你们很忙,但是这个理由导致的结果就是孩子没人陪,没人陪着玩,没人陪着说话,没人陪着讲故事,这样会产生很多的问题的,首先&quot;<span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">在拖班和小班经常受到老师的表扬</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">小朋友们也很喜欢和他玩</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可从上中班开始就变得经常受批评</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,&quot;你说的这个现象就是孩子没人陪之后的一个现象,孩子在长时间内觉得孤独,觉得没有人关注,下意识的会搞一些恶做剧来吸引人的眼球,</span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">一个建议:如果实在是没时间,做好饭吃完之后就要陪着孩子,给孩子讲故事,听听孩子在幼儿园都发生了什么事,有什么新闻,对于这些事孩子都有什么感受,至于洗碗收拾家之类的活可以等孩子睡觉之后再做,这样家长是辛苦些,不过我想这对于孩子的成长,家长再辛苦也是心甘情愿的是吗?况且这样做对孩子只有好处没有坏处.</span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">二.<span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">有时宁可自己呆着抱个毛绒玩具什么也不干</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">给他买的磁力棒他总是摆点简单的图案</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">然后就让我给他摆</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">很少自己发挥自己玩</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">星期天也是这样</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">玩具玩来玩去也就是那几样棍子棒子枪的</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不愿意动脑筋</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">上面就是孩子总是一个人,他不知道该怎么样玩才是有趣的,才是对他有好处的,因为没有人引导他,没有人和他一起玩的快乐,这个问题挺严重,我觉得问题是在家长身上,不是在孩子身上,(如果孩子没有身体方面的疾病的话),所以做家长的只能在辛苦了一天的工作之后请你再辛苦一下多花点时间在孩子身上,多和他玩玩他认为有意思的游戏,或者说自己设计一些简单的有趣的,并富有知识性的游戏,这样慢慢引导,由易渐难,孩子也会慢慢喜欢上这种游戏的,</span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">三.<span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">在幼儿园老师反映</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他上课坐不住</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">总爱玩个什么</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">要不就是地上捡的小纸片什么的</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">要不就玩手</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">还经常前摇后晃的</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不好好听老师讲课</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">上绘画课把手画的乱七八糟</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师教的却没记住多少</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师经常训他</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">我想这点得和老师沟通一下,中班的孩子,就算是大班的孩子,注意力集中不过十五到二十五分钟的极限了,坐不住是正常的,为什么要训孩子??绘画课画的乱七八糟也是孩子喜欢的画,孩子的画本就不应该非得照成人的想法去做,可以做引导,&quot;你看看这样画是不是更漂亮呢?&quot;我想一个合格的老师应该用这样的语言去引导孩子,如果因为这个训孩子,我要是家长,我得找老师直接谈了</span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">四.<span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">他有点进步也经常表扬他</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可他的进步却很小</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">还经常倒退</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">.</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">老师训他他还大哭大叫的</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">任何一个孩子,只要有了一点点进步,就应该大大的表扬,孩子没有坏孩子,只是有还没有养成好习惯的孩子,对于这类孩子,老师更应当教会孩子养成一个好的习惯,而不是训,如果老师常训孩子,我想你直接找老师谈,或者说直接找园长了,孩子大哭小叫我认为是正常,大人训孩子,孩子不满意当然大哭小叫了,这是他在表达他的不满</span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"></span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">五.<span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">更让人生气的是儿子上台后的表现</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">别的孩子站的好好的唱歌</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">可他上台后又蹦又跳</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">好长时间都安静不下来</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">最后还摔倒了</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">气得我和他爸爸都坐不住了</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">非常难堪</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman"></span></span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">孩子平时可能表现的机会太少了,所以上台之后极欲表现自己,这些情况我女儿上幼儿园时她班上也有的小朋友这样,当时我们在场观看的家长全都哈哈大笑,笑孩子的这种可爱,这种天真,这种无拘无束，这点我觉得你们没必要感到难堪，只要下来和孩子好好沟通一下，让孩子懂得这样是不礼貌的，也是对老师的不尊敬，或者说让他来当一下领导，他设计一个节目或游戏来让家长来演，家长故意做一些小动作或不听他的话，看他是何感受，让他也换位一下， 这样他可能会理解老师为什么会不高兴，也让孩子学会做事多想想他人</span></span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"></span></span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">六<font face="宋体">我儿子特爱吃糖<span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">每天下午去接他都得带糖</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">要不他就发脾气</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">回到家也不停的要糖吃</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">跟他讲道理都不听</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">我们怕吃多了糖不好</span><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">总是藏起来不给他</span></span></span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"></span></span></span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">几乎每个孩子都是爱吃糖的，但是吃糖得有节制，可以给孩子讲大老虎吃糖的故事，大意是狐狸送礼物给老虎就是糖，老虎就天天吃，结果牙全掉了，狐狸就称王称霸了，这样类似的故事还有许多，你可在网上搜索一下，并可以做个实验，到牙科诊所要一颗没用的牙齿，回来消毒之后，拿个瓶子装起来，当着孩子的面倒下醋，这样没几天把牙齿取出来，让孩子看看牙变成什么样了，并且讲解人的一生只有两副牙齿，再想要也没了，这样孩子既做了实验，觉得有趣，又了解了人的牙齿的知识，还懂得了为什么我们不能吃那么多的糖，为什么要爱护我们的牙齿，您说呢？</span></span></span></span></span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">以上一己之见，可以试着做做，或者说您根据自己的具体情况，自己设计一些更为实用的办法来，孩子的问题表现都是有原因的，好好想想问题出在哪，根据我所了解的情况，大多数孩子的问题都是家长自身的问题，所以请您先找找自身的原因再想想如何改进孩子的问题，以上多有得罪之处，见谅，一个目的：一切为了孩子</span></span></span></span></span></span></span>

硕硕爸爸

其实很简单,悄悄说得很对，交流，也可以偶尔让他帮你做饭刷碗了，他会很乐意干的，让他学会与你合作，慢慢的就会和小朋友合作了，故事了，音乐了，只会优化智商，对情商没有一点作用，你儿子明显情商出问题了：从小老师表扬，学生拥护，不一定哪一次事情没办好，老师批评了，同学笑他了，稚嫩的心灵受到挫折，或者什么有点难度的东西不会，遭老师的冷眼了等等等等，挫折感导致了这以后的事情一件接一件的发生，怕困难，不愿意合作交流，对自己没有信心叫我说，首先要沟通，其次换幼儿园从新开始，至少需要换个班，这么大的孩子应该不可能超越自我，不受环境的影响，他的环境已经让他无法摆脱心理阴影了，老师水平也不会太高