克拉克的55条班规

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《优秀是教出来的》（“The Essential 55”）的作者克拉克（RonClark）老师年仅二十八岁，是全美最佳教师奖得主，是唯一被美国总统接见过三次的小学老师，已荣获“全美最佳教师奖”。他教过的学校，学生都来自最贫困的家庭，学校的资源也不丰富。但凭着他的热情与本书所介绍的“基本五十五条”，只要被他教过的学生，成绩一定会突飞猛进，气质也会变得彬彬有礼。

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1、与大人应对，要有礼貌，有分寸

Rule 1    Whenresponding to any adult, you must answer by saying “Yes ma’am” or “No sir.”Just nodding your head or saying any other form of yes or no is not acceptable.

2、与人互动，眼睛要看着对方的眼睛

Rule 2    Makeeye contact. When someone is speaking, keep your eyes on him or her at alltimes. If someone makes a comment, turn and face that person.

3、别人有好表现，要替他高兴

Rule 3    Ifsomeone in the class wins a game or does something well, we will congratulatethat person. Claps should be at least three seconds in length with the fullpart of both hands meeting in a manner that will give the appropriate clapvolume.
要对游戏获胜者或把某事做得特别出色的人表示祝贺。鼓掌至少持续３秒钟，两个手掌充分接触，以便掌声足够响。
“一个老师面对全班37名学生，要想关注所有的学生、表扬所有值得鼓励的事，这几乎是不可能的，而让同学们彼此之间相互鼓励就容易多了。”——看人家多会“偷懒”。这个老师在公布学生成绩的时候，搞的也象国外重大比赛发奖一样，大声、高声、长声，特刺激、特煽动。孩子们都能从中获得无穷的快乐和动力。“学生们整天盼望着这样的时刻。”

4、尊重别人的发言与想法

Rule 4    Duringdiscussions, respect other students’ comments, opinions, and ideas. Whenpossible, make statements like, “I agree with John, and I also feel that…” or“I disagree with Sarah. She made a good point I feel that…” or “I think Victormade an excellent observation, and it made me realize…”
很多时候“我们不同意别人的观点，可又苦于没有一种很轻松的氛围能让我们把满脑子的想法自由地表达出来。” “担心一旦自己的想法自由地表达出来，别人会怎么看，自己会不会遭到嘲笑、贬低和忽略。”
克拉克先生的办法是：“在讨论问题的时候，要对其他同学的评论、观点和想法表示尊重。要尽可能地这样说：“我同意约翰的观点，同时我也感到……” “我不同意沙拉的看法，尽管她抓住了问题的核心，但我觉得……”或者“我认为维可多的观察真是太精彩了，它让我意识到……
简单地说，就是：尊重别人，注意讲话技巧。核心是要懂得尊重人。而“尊重人”，则是个大原则、大观念了。它可以说含概了前面详细提到的所有教育细节。
我认为，教育孩子时，要注意大原则的把握。大原则把握了，其他细节会很自然地理解、领悟。心里有了强烈的尊重他人的观念，在做事的细节上就会“本该如此”。
感悟到“大观念”是重要，可是简单的、一味的向孩子反复灌输“要尊重人”，孩子能明白吗？也许我们传统的教育太注重大道理而忽视了具体细节，而这些细节看起来乱七八糟的小节，也许正是对我们最有帮助的。)

5、自己有什么好表现，不要炫耀，输给别人也不要生气

Rule 5    Ifyou win or do well at something do not brag. If you lose, do not show anger.Instead, say something like, “I really enjoyed the competition, and I lookforward to playing you again,” or “good game,” or don’t say anything at all. Toshow anger or sarcasm, such as “I wasn’t playing hard anyway” or “You reallyaren’t that good,” shows weakness.

6、如果别人问你问题，你也回问他问题

Rule 6    Ifyou are asked a question in conversation, you should ask a question in return.
Me: “Did you have a nice weekend?”
You: “Yes, I had a great time. My family and I went shopping. What about you?Did you have a nice weekend?”
It is only polite to show others that you are just as interested in them asthey are in you.

7、打喷嚏、咳嗽或者打嗝都要说对不起

Rule 7    “When you cough or sneeze or burp, it is appropriate to turn your head awayfrom others and cover your mouth with the full part of your hand. Using a fistis not acceptable. Afterward, you should say, “Excuse me.”

8、不可以有不礼貌的小动作

Rule 8    “Donot smack your lips, tusk, roll your eyes, or show disrespect with gestures.”

9、别人送你任何东西，都要说谢谢

Rule 9    “Alwayssay thank you when I give you something. If you do not say it within 3 secondsafter receiving the item, I will take it back. There is no excuse for notshowing appreciation.”

10、接到奖品和礼物，不可以嫌弃

Rule 10 “Whenyou are given something from someone, never insult that person by makingnegative comments about the gift or by insinuating that it wasn’t appreciated”

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11、用小小的贴心，为别人制造惊喜
Rule 11        “Surprise others by performing random acts of kindness. Go out of your way to do something surprisingly kind and generous for someone at least once a month.”
12、改同学试卷时要特别谨慎
Rule 12        “Occasionally we may grade each other’s papers as a group. When grading other students’ papers, if you give someone an incorrect grade, whether it is higher or lower than they deserve, the amount the grade differs from the actual grade will be deducted from your paper. The only marks you are allowed to make on others’ papers are an “X” and the number they got incorrect.”
“给其他同学的试卷判分时，如果比实际分数高了或低了，高出或低出的分数将在你本人的试卷中扣除。”
13、全班一起念课文时，要看着正念的一字一句
Rule 13        “When we read together in class, you must follow along. If I call on you to read, you must know exactly where we are and begin to read immediately.”
“每当给孩子们念书的时候，我会感情饱满、精力充沛、表现力丰富地去读，我会全身心地进入角色。”克拉克先生还根据角色不断变换各种嗓音，做各种动作。“这种方法使整个阅读的过程充满了乐趣，同时也告诉孩子们，阅读是件多么令人着迷的事情。”
“如果我看到那个学生在我们读书的时候眼睛每盯着那一页，或者我叫一个学生接着读，他却不知道我们刚才读到哪里了，那么这个学生的名字就会被记在黑板上。”
习惯成自然，以后孩子们集中注意力的能力会很高的吧。
14、以完整的句子回答所有的问题
Rule 14        “Answer all questions with a complete sentence. For example, if the question asks, “What is the capital of Russia?” you should respond by writing, “The capital of Russia is Moscow.” Also, in conversation with others, it is important to use complete sentences out of respect for the person’s question. For example, if a person asks, “How are you?” instead of just responding by saying, “Fine,” you should say, “I’m doing fine, thank you. How about yourself?”
第一复述问题并给出答案，第二给出主要理由，第三展开说明理由，最后重复问题并给出答案结束。克拉克先生要求学生用这样的方式回答问题，锻炼学生的语言表达能力和写作能力。
15、不要主动讨奖品
Rule 15        “At times throughout the year, I will give rewards for good behavior, academic performances and other acts worthy of praise. If you ever ask me for a reward, however, it will not be given. It is rude to ask if you are getting something for good behavior. You should be good and try your best because you are trying to better yourself, not because you are anticipating a reward. I usually give some sort of reward to everyone who scores 100 on unit tests. If you make 100 and ask if you are getting something, no one who made 100 will be given anything.”
克拉克先生经常给好学生发些奖品，但成绩好的学生索要奖品时，他会坚决拒绝。“我努力让他们知道，尽力做好每件事不是为了奖品，而是为了他们自己。”“帮助孩子们最终学会肯定自我奋斗的价值。”
16、每天都要完成作业
Rule 16        “Homework will be turned in each day for each subject by every student with no exceptions.”
克拉克先生的高招是：“在教室外贴了一条巨大的横幅”，上面写着：“全班所有同学连续完成全部家庭作业___天”。当孩子们连续完成超过10天，克拉克先生就开始给孩子们做好吃的小点心。孩子们最长是连续62天，克拉克先生说他都成了“厨爷”了。真是够疯狂的，那年克拉克先生的学生们成绩跟做了火箭一样狂涨。
17、做任何事都要有条理
Rule 17        “You will make every effort to be as organized as possible.”
“When we are in transition from one subject to the other, the change will be swift, quiet and orderly. We should be consistently able to turn from one book to another, complete with all homework and necessary materials, as quickly as possible. The opportune amount of time to spend in transition should be less than ten seconds, and we will work toward a goal of seven seconds.”
为了帮助孩子们变得有条理，克拉克老师在假期里去商店买回了一套他希望孩子们人手一份的用具，能装下笔记本的大架子、活页纸、笔记本、尺等等。克拉克老师把买到的所有物品摆放在地板上拍照，并列好明细清单，在开学前3个星期给每个学生发了一份照片和信。开学时，克拉克老师仔细检查每位同学的用品，告诉他们每件东西什么时候用，在上面贴上标签，还给孩子们做示范等等等等。
后来孩子们自然变得非常有条理，克拉克老师领悟到，其实孩子很喜欢条理化。
另外，值得一提的是，克拉克老师每年都问他以前的学生，他们的新老师对他们在班上的表现有哪些看法。这样克拉克老师就可以从侧面了解自己的教学有哪些不足，有哪些成功。多么有心的好老师啊！
18、老师在指定作业的时候，不要叫苦
Rule 18         “When I assign homework, there is to be no moaning or complaining. This will result in a doubled assignment.”
如果谁违反了，他就必须做两倍的作业。
克拉克坚持这个严厉的惩罚，就是为了让孩子以积极进取的心态接受必须的完成的任务。克拉克老师认为：与其让布置的每一项作业（或必须完成的任务）都被抱怨、每一件应该完成的工作都充满了逆反情绪，还不如让他们做几次双倍的作业，从此以后在接受作业（和任务）的时候再也不会抱怨和发牢骚。
19.就餐时不准占座位
Rule 19        “Do not save seats in the lunchroom. If someone wants to sit down, let him or her. Do not try to exclude anyone. We are a family, and we must treat one another with respect and kindness.”
20、别的老师来代课，也要守班规
Rule 20        “While you are with a substitute teacher, you will obey the same rules that you follow when I am with you. (I know this is hard, but it is important.)”
这个细节的目的是为了培养孩子“无论有没有老板在身边，他们工作都是为了自己”，也就是培养自觉性。克拉克为此做了很多努力，苦口婆心的教导；杀一儆百；为了保证教学质量，事先做讲课录像，并在录像的制作中加很多技巧。

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21、课堂上发言，或起身，应该讲规矩
Rule 21        “We will follow certain classroom protocols. We will be organized, efficient, and on task. In order to do so, we will follow these rules:
1. Do not get out of your seat without permission. Exception: If you are sick, leave immediately.
2. Do not speak unless: You raise your hand, and I call on you.
I ask you a question and you are responding.
It is a recess of lunch.
I instruct you otherwise (for example, during group work).”
22.上课喝水吃东西不要打扰到老师讲课
Rule 22        “You may bring a bottle of water and leave it on your desk. Do not ask me if you can get water while I am teaching a lesson. You can even have food at your desk as long as others don’t see it and I don’t hear you eat it.”

23、见到每个老师，都要说某某老师好
Rule 23        "Quickly learn the name of other teachers in the school and greet them by saying things like, "Good morning Mrs. Graham," or "Good afternoon Ms. Ortiz. That is a very pretty dress." (Note: If you are in line with the rest of class, you are not allowed to speak to the teachers at that time because the no-talking rule is in effect. You should speak to other teachers if you are entering or leaving the school, on recess, on an errand, or changing classes.)
克拉克老师要求孩子们“要迅速记住全校老师的名字”，并在遇到的时候打招呼，同时还没忘记强调排队走路的时候除外，因为那时有“不许讲话”的纪律。克拉克老师希望学生们培养起良好的社交习惯，以便进入社会后“能主动了解周围的同事或邻居”，“并努力做到善意、有礼貌地对待别人。”
24、注意洗手间的卫生，把身边的病原减少到最少
Rule 24        "Flush the toilet and wash your hands after using the rest room. When in a public rest room, get a paper towel before washing your hands. After washing your hands, use the paper towel to turn off the faucets and to press the dispenser to get another paper towel to dry your hands. (Or use the towel to press the button to start the dryer.) The last thing you want to do is touch areas with clean hands that others have touched with dirty hands."
25、让客人有宾至如归的感觉
Rule 25        "We will often have visitors to our school. If someone is coming to visit our class, I will send two students to the front door of the building. You will have a sign welcoming the person. When our visitor arrives, you will shake hands, tell him or her who you are, and welcome the person to our school. You will then take the visitor on a small tour of the building before bringing him or her to the classroom."
“如果有人要参观我们教室，我会派两名学生在教学楼前等候，并举着一个欢迎牌。当我们的参观者到来时，接待者要和他们握手，向他们作自我介绍，并致欢迎辞，然后，在带他们进教室之前，先领他们简单地参观一下校园。”
如果我是来访者，我对如此接待会感到很新奇、很欣赏、很欣慰。对孩子只要要求他们这样做，我认为孩子绝对可以做的到。孩子会从中学到些什么呢？
27、同学受罚的时候，不要看着他
Rule 27        “If I or any other teacher in school is speaking to or disciplining a student, do not look at that student. You wouldn’t want others looking at you if you were in trouble or being reprimanded, so don’t look at others in that situation. If you are the student I am talking to, do not get angry or fuss at students who are looking at you. Let me know and I will handle the situation.”
主观上，特别喜欢这一条，周围的人很多做不到这一点，家长首先做不到，孩子们也难。
以后我还会告诉他，不要随便同情谁，不是不善良，而是只要能够自立，不同情就是尊重。“为了避免尴尬和因公开展示而引起的愤怒，我要保证孩子们理解和遵守这个规矩。”不做落井下石、幸灾乐祸的事是对的，我还是那句话“己所不欲，勿施于人。”但是，老师也该注意保护小孩子的自尊心。
28、对作业的问题，可以打电话来我家，我没接的话，你可以留言，但只要留一次就够了
Rule 28        "If you have a question about your homework, you may call me. If I am not there to answer the phone, please leave a message in the following manner: "Hi, Mr. Clark, this is _______________. I need help with the _______________ homework. You can call me back until ___:00. Thank you." There is no need to leave this message fourteen times."

30、吃完饭，自己的垃圾自己处理
Rule 30        “There are several manners dealing with food that you must follow: I call these my ABC’s of Etiquette.
A.        When you first sit down for a meal, immediately place you napkin in your lap. If you silverware is wrapped in a napkin, unwrap it as soon as you sit down and place the napkin in your lap.
B.        When you are finished eating, place your napkin on the table to the left of your plate. Place it loosely beside the plate. Don’t crumple it, because you don’t want to seem untidy. Don’t fold it too neatly, because you don’t want the restaurant to think you assume they are going to use it again. Never leave your napkin on your chair. This implies that the napkin is too dirty to be left on the table. Also, in some cultures, leaving the napkin on the chair is known as a way to say that you don’t intend to return to the restaurant again.
C.        Never place you elbows on the table.
D.        Use one hand to eat, unless you are cutting or buttering food. Never have your fork in one hand and a glass in the other.
E.        Do not lick your fingers. There is a napkin provided for the purpose of cleaning your fingers. There is no need to lick yourself clean.
F.        Do not smack you lips or chew noisily.
G.        Do not chew with your mouth open.
H.        Do not talk with your mouth full. Sometimes people will place a hand over their mouth and talk anyway. Don’t do that. Wait until you have swallowed your food to speak.
I.        If something is caught in your teeth, don’t go in after it; wait until you are in the rest room to remove it.
J.        Do not slurp.
K.        Do not play with your food.
L.        If you drop your fork, napkin, or anything else on the floor, DO NOT pick it up. It is very rude and unsanitary to place something on the table that has been on the floor. If you pick up something that has dropped and hand it to a waiter, then you will need to excuse yourself and wash your hands before continuing with your meal. The best way to handle a situation when something has dropped on the floor is to ask a waiter for a replacement; leave the old one on the floor.
M.        You are to use your utensils for eating almost everything. Here are ten types of food you may use your hands to eat:
1.        Pizza
2.        Bacon
3.        Cookies
4.        Bread (Always tear off a bite-sized piece to eat. If you are going to use butter, never butter the whole piece of bread; butter the piece you tore off, and eat that before tearing another piece.)
5.        Corn on the cob (It is appropriate to eat across instead of eating around.)
6.        Hot dogs, hamburgers, and sandwiches (including breakfast biscuits)
7.        French fries and chips
8.        Fried chicken
9.        Asparagus (yes, asparagus)
10.        Small fruits (like grapes on a stem), apples, oranges, carrots, etc.
N.        Never reach over someone’s plate to get something. You should say, “Will you please pass the salt?”
O.        Never start eating off of your tray until you are at your seat.
P.        When we are eating at a restaurant, you are not to begin eating until everyone at the table has received food.
Q.        You should never complain if the line is too long, the food isn’t good, or if there is a wait. You don’t want to be negative to the point where you spoil the enjoyment of the event for others.
R.        If you are unsure which silverware to use, simply start with the fork, knife or spoon that is the farthest from your plate. On the left, you will have your salad fork on the outside and your dinner fork on the inside. On the far right, you will have your soupspoon. Beside it you will have the spoon you will use to stir your coffee or tea, then your salad knife, and then your dinner knife. The utensils above your plate are to be used for dessert.
S.        When you are finished eating, do not push your plate away from you. Leave it where it is in the setting. If you want to show you have finished eating, you should lay your fork and knife together diagonally across the plate. You should place the fork with the tines down, and you should have the sharp side of the knife facing down. Of the two utensils, the fork should be closest to you.
T.        Never place a piece of silverware that you have used back on the table. Leave it on a plate or saucer.
U.        If you didn’t use a utensil, do not place it on a plate or saucer when you are finished. Just leave it where it is.
V.        Always look a waiter in the eyes when you are ordering, asking a question, or saying thank you.
W.        Make a point to remember the waiter’s name when he introduces himself to you. Use his name as often as possible throughout the course of the meal.
X.        If you have to go to the rest room, you should stand up and say, “Excuse me,” as you leave the table.
Y.        When you are offered desserts or asked a question such as “What sides would you like?” or “What dressing would you like for your salad?” it is best to ask, “What are my options?” That way, you aren’t going through a process of naming things the restaurant might not have.
Z.        Never talk to waiters or waitresses as if they are servants. Treat them with respect and kindness, and remember, they are the ones who are fixing food and bringing it to you. You do not want to be on the bad side of a waiter.”
克拉克老师要求他的学生们吃完饭要把桌子擦干净，掉在地上的要捡起来扔到垃圾筒里，还要检查垃圾箱周围有没有垃圾并清理干净。克拉克老师还要求孩子看到别人乱丢的垃圾也要拣起来，经常奖励拣垃圾的孩子，也经常公布不拣垃圾的孩子。为此花了一年的时间才基本培养好了一个班的孩子。

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31. 不要随处乱扔垃圾
Rule 31        “After we eat, we will clean up after ourselves. This includes cleaning off the tables and making sure we haven’t left any trash on the floor or around the eating area. It is important to be responsible for your trash no matter where you are and to be sure not to litter.”
32.住旅馆要对好的服务给予评价和适当的小费
Rule 32        "When we stay in a hotel room, it is appropriate to leave a tip on the pillow for the hotel workers who are responsible for cleaning the room after our stay. Two to three dollars per night is an appropriate amount, depending on the cost of the room."
“When we ride on a bus, we will always sit facing forward. We will never turn around to talk to other students, stick anything out of the windows, or get out of our seats. When we exit the bus, we will always thank the bus driver and tell him to have a good day.”
坐车要有礼貌，不讲话，不胡乱粘东西。
33、认识新朋友，要记住对方的名字
Rule 33        "When we go on field trips, we will meet different people. When I introduce you to people, make sure that you remember their names. Then, when we are leaving, make sure to shake their hands and thank them, mentioning their names as you do so."
克拉克先生有意训练孩子们这项技能，立下了一些有助于记住人家名字的规矩：介绍后要起立握手，并称呼人家的名字问好；交谈中尽量多重复人家的名字；分手时要再次重复他们的名字。
34.吃东西，只取够自己的份，不能抢占别人的
Rule 34        "Whenever you are offered food, whether it be on a buffet or treats in class, never take more than your fair share. You never want to be greedy and try to get more than you should, not only because it is wasteful, but also because it is disrespectful to others when you do not leave enough for them."
35、别人掉东西，请弯腰去帮他捡
Rule 35        "Whether we are in school or on a field trip, if someone drops something, pick it up and hand it back to them. Even if they are closer to the object, it is only polite to make the gesture of bending down to retrieve the item."
36、进门时，如果后面有人，扶住门请别人先走
Rule 36        “If you approach a door and someone is following you, hold the door. If the door opens by pulling, pull it open, stand to the side, and allow the other person to pass through it first, then you can walk through. If the door opens by pushing, hold the door open after you push through."
如果开门的时候需要拉的话，你就拉开门，自己站在一边，让别人先过去，然后你再走过去；如果开门的时候需要推门，你就在自己走过去后用手扶住门，别松手。
克拉克老师认为，教孩子一些小小的善意举止虽然看起来微不足道，但对孩子们了解如何尊重和重视别人大有裨益。克拉克老师教孩子的时候非常注意细节，如扶门时站的位置、扶多长时间、说点什么等等更加细节的东西。
37、别人碰到你，不管有没有错，都要说声对不起
Rule 37        Whenever somebody else bumps into you, you should say sorry though sometimes it seems you are not offended though. In this way, you can show your absolutely good quality.
克拉克老师说：在学校里，一次轻微的碰撞，也能导致第三次世界大战的爆发。现在的孩子谁让着谁啊？有些大人都会因为这些而争吵。克拉克先生的这条规则，不但很好地阻止了事态向不良方向发展，而且使孩子们显得彬彬有礼。
克拉克老师对礼貌是非常重视的，在孩子乘坐飞机之前，他亲自在教室里把椅子摆成飞机过道的样子，训练孩子们。
38、进行校外教学时，无论到哪一个公共场所，都要安安静静
Rule 38        keeping very quiet when taking a class outside of the classroom or in a public place.
“有时候，人们做了什么好事不一定都能给他人留下印象，尤其是他做这件好事的时候其实周围根本没人，他做好事是出自本心，而不是给别人看，这就更值得你敬重了。”
对孩子的细节教育，学校的老师做了很多，但仍有很多细节是难以顾及的，我们家长应该在生活中言传身教，尽可能多地把握教育孩子的机会。

39、去参观别人的地方，要不吝于赞美
Rule 39        "If we are on a field trip, it is a good idea to compliment something about the place where you are visiting. For example, if we visit someone's home, it would be a nice gesture to tell them that you think they have nice curtains. People are always self-conscious when they have guests visit their home, so you want to make them feel at ease. Also, if we are visiting other places, such as a museum or theater, it would be nice to comment on how beautiful the architecture is or to tell the guide that you think the facility is very nice."
这看似是一种对主人的尊重，如果形成习惯，也可能形成一种乐观的生活态度吧？克拉克老师认为孩子们应该有这样的风度，所以在外出前专门对孩子们进行这方面的训练，这是把握课外机会对孩子的培养。从克拉克老师的年龄和经历来看，如果不教学生，他自己也很难如此“绅士”吧？
40、全校师生开会的时候，不要讲话
Rule 40        “During an assembly, do not speak and DO NOT look around and try to get the attention of your friends in other classes. We must uphold an image that shows we have out act together!”
我们的老师们也很重视纪律的，经常强调。有趣的是，为了让学生知道怎样保持纪律，克拉克老师把学生们叫到礼堂里，坐好，手放在大腿上，眼睛看着前面。然后，克拉克先生不断地在礼堂的各个位置出现，喊学生的名字，扔小纸团，想办法骚扰孩子们，看哪个孩子破坏纪律。生动有趣，用心良苦。

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41、接电话的言谈要得体
Rule 41        “When you answer the phone at your house, you must do so in an appropriate manner.”
在这一节里，克拉克先生讲了接电话时的常规语言，很简单，很得体。说实话，这些简单的东西，我做的都不好。但是，看了之后，我知道以后我一定能做到，而且，这么简单的东西，教给孩子，孩子掌握起来应该也很容易。虽然是小节，但孩子真的象书中的那样打电话的话，任何一个大人看了都会很惊讶，太有教养了！！！
42、一趟校外教学结束，要谢谢所有随行的老师和家长
Rule 42        “When we return from a trip, you will shake my hand as well as the hands of every chaperone. You will thank us for taking the time to take you on the trip, and you will let us know that you appreciate having the opportunity to go. I am not concerned with being thanked; I am concerned with teaching you that is it appropriate to show appreciation when someone has gone out of his or her way to help you.
“我不在意你是否感谢我，我关心的是你要学会在别人给你提供额外帮助的时候，你能恰当地表示感谢。”
对于感谢，很多时候，我们常会认为亲近的人的帮助是理所当然的，所以就不在意、不感激，所以就漠然。我要求孩子学会感谢，即使是最亲近的人，即使是没起任何作用的帮助。
43、搭乘电梯时，要站右边，请赶时间的人走左边（可以换成楼梯）
Rule 43        “When we are on field trips and we have to go up escalators, we will stand to the right. That will give other individuals who are in a hurry the option of walking up the left-hand side of the
escalator. When we are going to enter an elevator, the subway, or a doorway, we will wait for others to exit before we enter."
克拉克教孩子“在自动扶梯上，要站在右侧，从左侧走动”，“在进入电梯、地铁或地下通道前，要礼让出去的人先行。”
据克拉克先生说，美国公共场所的地铁、电梯、扶梯比较乱，“缺乏彼此尊重的意识”。我们也要重视教育孩子尊重他人，否则必将步其后尘。
44、列队行进时不要说话
Rule 44        "When in a line; walk single file, two to three feet behind the person in front of you with your arms at your sides. You should face forward at all times. There will be absolutely no talking."
克拉克先生上班的第一天，管理的是个纪律散漫班级。克拉克先生要求孩子们排队吃饭时要有秩序，要安静，如果有一个孩子多说一个字，全班就多等１分钟。结果，在集体等候４５分钟后，孩子们排着整齐、安静的队伍进入食堂。用克拉克先生的话来说，校长站在门口“吃惊地看着我们发呆”。真是太帅了！！如果拍电影的话都会非常有戏剧性。
“也许有人会说，这有点太军事化了，但是我认为孩子们其实喜欢这么排队，他们会为自己能把队排得这么好看而感到骄傲。”　不知道现在的孩子会怎么想，反正我小时侯会有这种感觉。
克拉克老师要求孩子们在排两队进门的时候，“离墙近的那一队先进，另一队要笔直地站在大厅的中央，留在那里等候我的命令，接下来我会说：“每个人准备……行动！”所有孩子立刻会象一个完整的整体一样，右腿迅速横跨一步，靠向墙边。看到孩子们在同一刻步调一致地行动，会令人产生一种感觉，那就是“酷！”然后我再发出命令：“进入！”他们就整齐地进去了。”
“你可能认为，孩子们一旦被要求不准出声、遵守纪律和保持秩序的话，他们一定会反感的，但事实上他们喜欢这样。在哈莱姆，我们学校的其他孩子请求他们的老师也让他们象我们班一样，排好队进入教室。”
45、不可以插队，但看到别人插队时不可以大呼小叫，让老师知道就好
Rule 45        “Never cut line. If someone cuts in front of you, do not say or do anything about it. Let it happen, but let me know about it. I will handle the situation. If you fuss with someone who has cut in line, you could get in trouble as well. It’s not worth it; just let me know what happened. Please handle all disputes with other classmates in the same manner, by coming to me with any problems before you take matters into your own hands."
“如果有人插到了你前面，一个字也不要说，随他去，只要告诉我一声，我就会来处理的。如果你非要和加塞儿的人理论，你也一样会有麻烦的，这不值得你这样做。同学之间解决任何纠纷，都应该在自己着手处理之前，先带着问题来找我。”
学生们遇到问题有两种选择：
第一，带着问题找我。但大多数孩子会选择第二种。
第二，不动声色地自己解决。他们清楚，必须悄悄地解决，否则我会因他们不能以恰当的方式处理问题而惩罚他们。
孩子们必须学会心平气和地解决问题。
46、看电影时不要说话
Rule 46        “When we go to a movie theater, there will be no talking."
克拉克先生希望孩子们懂得如何文明地观看电影，从而使很多人看电影的经历成为一种更加愉快的享受。这也是教孩子们学会尊重别人。
47、不可以带玩具到学校来
Rule 47        "Do not bring Doritos in the school building."
48、有谁欺负你，让老师知道
Rule 48        "If any child in this school is bothering you, let me know. I am your teacher, and I am here to look after you and protect you. I am not going to let anyone in this school bully you or make you feel uncomfortable. In return, I ask that you not take matters into your own hands; let me deal with the student."
“我想让他们知道，只要我在这个班，就会保护他们。”　“这种来自于大人的支持对一个孩子而言非常重要，它伴随着孩子的成长，帮他们建立起人与人之间的信任感。”
49、自己的理想自己要坚持
Rule 49        "Stand up for what you believe in. You shouldn't take no for an answer if your heart and mind are leading you in a direction that you feel strongly about."
“在我一生中，已经数不清有多少次了，我想做某事，而周围的每个人都反对。”“我希望他们（我的学生们）有勇气为自己的信念义无返顾地付出努力，并为他们想要做的事情而奋斗。”
“有时候，坚守你的信念是很困难的事，尤其当只有你一人持有这种信念的时候，会感到更加孤独。我只希望我能给我的学生逐步树立一种信念，就是他们对自己以及他们所做的事情要有足够的信心，有勇气为自己的信念，主张和梦想而努力。”
50、要乐观，要享受人生
Rule 50        "Be positive and enjoy life. Some things just aren't worth getting upset over. Keep everything in perspective and focus on the good in your life."
“保持乐观的态度，尽情享受生活。有些事情不值得大惊小怪。学会为每件事作好准备，去追求生命中的美好。”　“我自己也在努力培养这种品质，并且以此来影响我的学生。”
保持积极乐观的生活态度，这是我非常欣赏的。与上节相似，克拉克在本节谈的也是人生观的问题，以个人修养为主，并影响学生。克拉克先生既教书又育人，绝对钦佩！

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51、既然想做一件事，就只管去做
Rule 51        "Live so that you will never have regrets. If there is something you want to do, do it! Never let fear, doubt, or other obstacles stand in your way. If there is something you want, fight for it with all of your heart. If there is something you want to do, go for it and don't stop until you make it happen. If there is something you want to be, do whatever is necessary in order to live that dream."
克拉克先生经常给他的学生讲自己的故事和其他相似的故事，教育孩子们，凡事想好了就勇往直前地去做，全力以赴，这样到什么时候都不会后悔。
52、从错误中学习，继续向前迈进
Rule 52        “Accept that you are going to make mistakes. Learn from them and move on.”
克拉克先生现身说法，讲述人生道理。老师也是人，是人就会犯错误；老师不是一般人，个人的错误会影响班里的很多孩子。
53、不管如何，一定要诚实
Rule 53        “No matter what the circumstances, always be honest. Even if you have done something wrong, it is best to admit it to me, because I will respect that, and oftentimes I will forget any disciplinary measures because of your honesty.”
“开学第一天，我反复跟孩子们解释，即使有时讲实话会遇到一点小麻烦，但还是值得的，说明你良心未泯。我告诉他们讲实话非常重要，因为此举能赢得别人的尊重和信任，而这两种荣誉应该伴你一生
54、抓住今天
Rule 54        “Carpe Diem. You only live today once, so don’t waste it. Life is made up of special moments, many of which happen when caution is thrown to the wind and people take action and seize the day.”
在我的学生生涯中，珍惜时间是老师们谈的最多的，但那时理解不深。如今，已经失去了太多的时间了，认识自然更深，而且会越来越深，但浪费的时间真的少了吗？人啊，最难战胜的就是自己。珍惜时间吧，做该做的事，做该做而不愿意做的事。
55、在你的能力范围内，做最好、最好的人
Rule 55        “Be the best person you can be.”
我觉得这些规矩不仅在学校教育中适用,在家庭教育中也同样适用。细看每一条都是些不起眼的小事，正是这些小事培养了孩子良好的行为习惯，从而养成正确的为人之道。

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我们无法为某个时刻标价。一生中，我们有很多一笔带过的过去，但有一些特别的事情却让我们印象深刻，永世难忘。
让学生爱上学习的最佳方法就是，要把你希望在孩子们身上看到的那种学习热情和激情，亲自展示出来。
成人还应该让孩子们看到你是一个终身学习者，而且你仍然对知识有着无限的渴求。
教师必须以强烈的求知欲不断地探索人生，以身作则地让孩子们明白终身学习意味着什么。如果他们在小时候就能学习到这种精神，那么这种精神将会伴随他们一生。
在人的一生中，50%的成功源于我们掌握的知识，而另外50%则与你如何为人处世有关。
对环境报以积极肯定的态度，这是教给孩子们的一趟无比重要的课。
父母是孩子成长中举足轻重的力量。
在一个孩子的生命中，没有一个人比他的父母重要。当需要教育你的年轻学生时，老师和父母必须一起合作。
仅有美好的愿望不足以帮助孩子成功。

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