请教：如何和孩子谈论考试成绩

megan6

小儿上小学一年级了，很快有了单元测试卷，随后又是期中考试，成绩也开始被小儿所念叨，该对孩子的成绩说啥？我一开始说，孩子，妈妈觉得成绩是次要的，重要的是你认真学习了，考试是看你是不是认真学习了。近来我发现孩子开始嘲弄成绩低的孩子了，我有点手足无措，虽说成绩不重要，可是孩子的生活中上学就是最重要的，成绩自然也就重要起来。不知各位怎么和孩子谈论成绩？
恳请畅言，谢谢。

woodhead

积极上进是好事。。不要打击孩子的积极性。
俺跟孩子这么说过：吴清源下围棋厉害吧？刘翔110米栏厉害吧？（都是孩子的偶像）
你让吴清源去和刘翔跑步，能不能跑第一啊？
孩子说：他连我也跑不过！
。。。。

hq1966

　　唯成绩论是不对的
　　但对学生而言
　　成绩是非常重要的

　　

times

原帖由 megan6 于 2009-11-26 10:07 发表
小儿上小学一年级了，很快有了单元测试卷，随后又是期中考试，成绩也开始被小儿所念叨，该对孩子的成绩说啥？我一开始说，孩子，妈妈觉得成绩是次要的，重要的是你认真学习了，考试是看你是不是认真学习了。近来 ...

（摘录了一篇美国“孩子学校考试的父母指南” 。作者和信息来源 不详  收录日期 2006年1月3日, 8:38:58 仅供参考。）

A Parent's Guide to Testing at Your Child's School

This guide was developed to help parents learn more about the different kinds of tests their children take during the school year.

The Tests Your Child Takes in School

Quizzes and exams that teachers routinely use to check on students' learning are the most common — and frequent — tests your child takes in school. In addition to classroom tests, your child may take one or more achievement tests that schools are required to give each year. These tests, which provide a snapshot of what children know, are used to gauge how well schools educate students.

When your child takes an achievement test that the state requires, your child's performance is compared with the performance of other students who take the test in the school district and the entire state.

As a parent, you should receive information regularly about your child's performance on tests — the tests teachers use routinely in the classroom as well as state-required achievement tests.

Don't hesitate to ask questions like the following about the tests your child takes at school:

1. How does the material my child learns in class relate to what is covered on tests?
2. In what other ways does the school — and my child's teacher — measure how well my child is learning?
3. How much time does my child spend taking tests during the school year?
4. Does my child's performance on state-required achievement tests match his performance in the classroom? (If an achievement test is not well matched to what your child is being taught at school, he could score poorly on the achievement test while still making good grades.)
5. How does the school — and my child's teacher — use test results?

Your Child and 'High-stakes' Tests

Some of the tests your child takes in school may be "high-stakes" tests. These are tests that school districts and schools use to make important decisions that affect your child's future, such as going on to the next grade level or graduating from high school. School districts and schools also use test results to identify children who will receive special services or participate in special programs. Special education services and programs for gifted and talented students are two examples.

You should not be overly concerned if test results are used as one factor in making high-stakes decisions, but you should be very concerned if they are the only factor considered when making these decisions. Your child's report cards, his performance on routine classroom tests throughout the school year, and information your child's teacher can provide about his performance also should be taken into account.

Helping Your Child Do Well on Tests

You can help your child do his or her best on tests by doing the following:
1. Make sure your child attends school every day so he can learn what is needed to do well in school — and to do well on tests.
2. Take an interest in your child's school work and in the results of the tests she takes in school.
3. Encourage your child to do his best on tests.
4. Provide a quiet place at home for your child to do homework assignments that reinforce what she is learning at school.
5. Work with your child at home as well as with his school and teacher to help him become a good reader. Good reading skills are important to success in school and to doing well on tests.
6. If your child's reading skills are lagging, or if she has limited interest in reading, talk to your child's teacher about ways to build reading skills and increase interest in reading.
7. Ask your child's teacher about the tests your child takes — classroom quizzes and tests as well as required achievement tests. Ask about the subjects, knowledge and skills that are tested — and how the test results will be used to help your child be successful.
8. Don't judge your child's abilities — or let others judge your child's abilities — on the basis of his score on a single test. Any test provides limited information about what your child knows and is able to do.

A More Complete Picture of Your Child's Learning

Tests are far from perfect measures of what your child has learned at school. At best, they only measure some of what he or she has learned. For this reason, tests are only one of the tools that teachers use to develop a complete picture of children's learning. A more complete picture of your child's learning also includes:
• The teacher's review of your child's daily work in class;
• The teacher’s observations of your child as he completes classroom assignments; and
• Conversations with you about how well your child is learning, and how the teacher can work with your child, and with you, to increase your child’s school success.

Please Remember that. . .

• You can, and should, ask your child's principal and teacher questions about the tests your child takes at school.
• You should receive clear and easy-to-understand information throughout the school year about your child's test performance.
• You can protect your child by ensuring that important decisions, such as promotion to the next grade level, are never based solely on a single test score.
• Test scores only provide a limited picture of what your child is learning. Your child's teacher can provide you with a more complete picture through report cards, notes home, or meetings with you.

For more on testing, see our Accountability and Testing and "No Child Left Behind" topics.

happy_99

俺的做法和木脑壳的差不多。

megan6

读了美国的方法，看来也该鼓励孩子DO  WELL ON TEST，并该和孩子谈谈考试一方面评估老师教的如何，另一方面了解学生学的如何，并且考试只是测试一部分学过的内容，并不是完整完美的反映一个人的习得；不过中国的家长和老师的沟通本来就很少，很多时候学校的事只能靠孩子自己了。

lingling0921

这的确是个问题。我儿子也是一年级，原来没上学的时候，我和他爸爸都想好了，不以成绩为重，不看重成绩，谁知道结果是我们比儿子还关注成绩，呵，，，总想知道他考得怎么样了？
搞得他现在也学会了，还会笑话那些考得不如他的。楼下的女孩子说她数学考了93分，儿子就会很自豪地说自己考了95分，，

cailixia

我也认为不必太注重成绩，但成绩又跟学习效果有直接的关系，所以不求满分但也不能太差！

megan6

昨天开了家长会，觉得还是得认真对待孩子的事，认真配合老师，要不然孩子在学校里也该不认真了，所以以后还得对孩子的成绩感兴趣，学习鼓励孩子啊

butterflyhnyt

呵呵，和孩子谈论成绩的问题只要上学就不可避免的参在，每次考完儿子一回家就告诉我。妈妈某某考了多少分，他是我们班最低的，然后再说自己的分数。