中英对照：孩子的二十一条要求

樱桃萝卜

孩子的二十一点要求
1. 别溺爱我。我很清楚的知道，不应该得到每一样我所要求的东西。我只是在试探你。
2. 别害怕对我保持公正的态度。我其实喜欢公正，它让我有安全感。
3. 别让我养成坏习惯。在年幼的此刻，我得依靠你来分辨它。
4. 别让我觉得我比实际的我还要渺小。它只会让我愚蠢的装出超出我实际年龄的傻模样。
5. 如果能够，请别在人前纠正我的错误。你私下的提醒，会让我更加的注意自己的行为。
6. 别让我觉得我犯的错误都是一种罪。它会打乱我的价值观。
7. 别过度地保护我，怕我无法接受一些「后果」。有的时候，我需要经由痛苦的方式来学习。
8. 当我说「我恨你」的时候别太沮丧。我恨的绝不是你，而是那些你施加在我身上的压力。
9. 别太在意我的小病痛。有时候，我只是想得到你的注意。
10. 别唠叨不休，否则有时候我会装聋作哑。
11. 别太快做出承诺。请记住，当你实现不了承诺时，我会是多么的难过。
12. 别忘了我还不能把事情解释得很清楚，虽然有时候我看起来像有这个能力。这同样也是我做事还不够精确和到位的原因。
13. 别太指望我的诚实，我很容易因为害怕而撒谎。
14. 请别在管教原则上前后不连贯、不一致。那样会使我疑惑，并且对你失去信心。
15. 当我问你问题的时候，别敷衍我或拒绝我。否则你会发现我将不再对你提问，而向别处寻找答案。
16. 别告诉我说，我的害怕很傻、很可笑。如果你试着去了解，便会发现它对我是多么的真实。
17. 别暗示或让我感到你是完美的、一贯正确的。当我发现你并非如此的时候，对我将是一项多么大的打击。
18. 别认为向我道歉是没有尊严的事。一个诚实的道歉，会让我对你更接近，对你感觉更温暖。
19. 别忘记我的成长会很迅速。跟上我的成长步子也许有些困难，但请你努力跟上。
20. 别忘记我很喜欢做实验。我不能没有实验，请尽量容忍这一点。
21. 别忘记我的茁壮成长离不开很多的理解和爱护，刚好这些你从来不缺，我不用再告诉你了，不是吗？

TWENTY-ONE MEMOS FROM YOUR CHILD
1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I'm only testing you.
2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it; it makes me feel secure.
3. Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big."
5. Don't correct me in front of others if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are all sins. It upsets my sense of values.
7. Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
8. Don't be too upset when I say "I hate you." It isn't you that I hate but your power to thwart me.
9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need.
10. Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
11. Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
12. Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as I should like. That is why I'm not always very accurate.
13. Don't tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
14. Don't be inconsistent. That confuses me completely and makes me lose faith in you.
15. Don't put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
16. Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
17. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
18. Don't ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm toward you.
19. Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please try.
20. Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get on without it, so please try to put up with it.
21. Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding love, but I don't have to tell you, do I?
Courtesy of: Colorado Elementary Principals' Association, Denver

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另外一个幼儿园入学准备手册。

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非常感谢哦,学习了，下载了