建设道德智慧：7种培养儿童宽容的方法

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Building Moral Intelligence: Seven Ways to Nurture Tolerance in Children

The best way to teach kids tolerance is not through our lectures but through our example. So be a living textbook of tolerance for your child and for all other children. Michele Borba, EdD, offers some advice!
Prejudices Are Learned
Did you know that today's American youth are displaying intolerant actions at alarming rates-and at younger and younger ages? The FBI tells us most hate crimes are committed by youth younger than 19. How tragic! Remember: kids aren't born hateful: prejudices are learned. And while hatred and intolerance can be learned, so, too, can sensitivity, understanding, empathy and tolerance.
If today's children are to have any chance of living harmoniously in this multiethnic world, it is critical that parents nurture it. Here are seven strategies (from my book Building Moral Intelligence) you can use that help curtail bigotry while at the same time influencing your kids to treat others with respect and understanding.
1. Confront your own prejudices. The first step to nurturing tolerance is to examine your own prejudices and reflect on how you might be projecting those ideas to your child. Chances are that you are communicating those attitudes to your child. Then make a conscious attempt to temper them so that they don't become your child's prejudices.
2. Commit to raising a tolerant child. Parents who think through how they want their kids to turn out usually succeed simply because they planned their parenting efforts. So if you really want your child to respect diversity, you must adopt a conviction early on to raise him to do so. Once your child knows your expectations, he will be more likely to embrace your principles.
3. Refuse to allow discriminatory comments. When you hear prejudicial comments, verbalize your displeasure. How you respond sends a clear message to your child about your values: "That's disrespectful and I won't allow such things to be said in my house," or "That's a biased comment, and I don't want to hear it." Your child needs to hear your discomfort so that she knows you really walk your talk. It also models a response she should imitate if prejudicial comments are made in her presence.
4. Embrace diversity. From a young age, expose your child to positive images - including toys, music, literature, videos, public role models and examples from TV or newspaper reports - that represent a variety of ethnic groups. Encourage your child, no matter how young, to have contact with individuals of different races, religions, cultures, genders, abilities, and beliefs. The more your child sees how you embrace diversity, the more prone he'll be to follow your standards.
5. Emphasize similarities. Encourage your child to look for what he has in common with others instead of how he is different. Any time your child points out how she is different from someone, you might say. "There are lots of ways you are different from other people. Now let's try to think of ways you are the same." Help her see how similarities outweigh differences.
6. Counter discriminatory beliefs. When you hear a child make a prejudicial comment, listen to find out why he feels the way he does. Then gently challenge his views and point out why they are incorrect. For example, if your child says, "Homeless people should get jobs and sleep in their own houses." You might counter: "There are many reasons homeless people don't work or have houses. They may be ill or can't find jobs. Houses cost money, and not everyone can pay for one."
7. Live your life as an example of tolerance. The best way for your child to learn tolerance is for him to watch and listen to your daily example. So ask yourself each day one critical question: "If my child had only my behavior to copy, would he be witnessing an example of what I want him to emulate?" Make sure you are walking your talk.
Although it's certainly never too late to begin, the sooner we start, the better the chance we have of preventing insidious, intolerant attitudes from taking hold. There has never been a time when it is most important to do so than now. All the best in building your child's moral intelligence!
About the author: Michele Borba, EdD, is an internationally renowned educational consultant and recipient of the National Educator Award. She has presented workshops to more than 750,000 participants worldwide. She is the award-winning author of 20 books including Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me: The Top 25 Friendship Problems and How to Solve Them, Don't Give Me That Attitude!, No More Misbehavin' and Building Moral Intelligence. She is recognized for her practical, solution-based strategies to strengthen children’s behavior and social development. She has lectured to over one million participants and has been featured on NPR Radio, the Today Show, The Early Show, The View, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, and been interviewed by Redbook, Newsweek, U.S. News & World Report, and many others. She is an advisory board member for Parents magazine, is a former classroom teacher and mom of three.

天巴都

有人给翻译一下吗？嗯……那个啥，楼主你就先歇着吧，时差倒过来再说。

qbd

英文不好

水轻

道德建设情报：七种方法，以培养宽容，在儿童

最好的方法，教导孩子宽容是不是通过我们的讲座，但通过我们的榜样。因此，生活教科书的宽容为您的孩子和所有其他儿童。米歇尔borba ， edd ，提供一些意见！
据悉，偏见是
你知道，今天的美国青年展示了不能容忍的行动，在惊人的速度和在年轻化的年龄呢？联邦调查局告诉我们，最仇恨犯罪是由年轻的青年比19 。多么悲惨！请记住：孩子们并非天生可恶：偏见是教训。而仇恨和不容忍，我们可以学到，所以也可以敏感性，理解，同情和宽容的胸襟。
如果今天的儿童是有任何的机会，和谐的生活在这个多种族的世界，这是至关重要的是，家长培育它。这里有7战略（从我的图书大厦的道德情报） ，您可以使用有助于削减偏执，而在同一时间，影响您的孩子对待他人的尊重和理解。
1 。面对自己的偏见。第一步，培育宽容，是研究自己的偏见和反映了你如何可能预测这些想法，您的孩子。机会是你是沟通那些态度您的孩子。然后作出一个有意识的尝试锻炼，使他们不成为您的孩子的偏见。
2 。致力于提高一个宽容的儿童。谁的家长认为，通过他们如何希望他们的孩子又往往成功只是因为他们计划在其父母的努力。所以，如果你真的想您的孩子以尊重多样性，你必须采取一种信念，早在提高他这样做。一旦你的孩子知道您的期望，他将更有可能拥抱你的原则。
3 。拒绝允许歧视性评论。当您听到有损评论， verbalize您的不满。您如何回应，发出了一个明确的讯息传送到您的孩子对您的价值观： “这是不敬和我将不容许这样的事情，应该说在我家” ，或“这是一个偏颇的评论，我不想听到它。 “您的孩子需要听到你的不适，让她知道你真的走您的谈话。它还模式的回应，她要模仿，如果损害的评论作出在她的存在。
4 。拥抱多样性。从一个年轻的年龄，揭露您的孩子的正面形象-包括玩具，音乐，文学，影片，市民的榜样和范例，从电视或报纸报道-代表了不同的族群。鼓励您的孩子，无论怎样年轻，有接触的个人，不同种族，宗教，文化，性别，能力，和信仰。更您的孩子看到你如何拥抱多样性，更容易，他将按照您的标准。
5 。强调相似之处。鼓励您的孩子找什么，他已在共同与他人，而是他如何是不同的。任何时候您的孩子指出，她是如何从不同的是某人，你也许会说。 “有很多方法，你是不同于其他人。现在让我们尽量想办法，你是相同的” 。帮助她，看看如何相似之处大于分歧。
6 。反歧视信仰。当您听到孩子作出有损评论，听取找出为何他觉得他没有。然后轻轻的挑战，他的意见，并指出，为什么他们不正确。例如，如果您的孩子说： “无家可归的人应得的就业机会和睡在自己的房子” 。您可能会反说： “原因有很多无家可归的人不工作或有房子，他们可能是生病或不能找到工作。房子花钱，而不是每个人都可以支付一” 。
7 。住你的生活作为一个例子，宽容的胸襟。最好的方法为您的孩子学习宽容是让他观赏，并听取您的每日的例子。因此，问问自己，每一天的一个关键问题： “如果我的孩子只有我的行为要复制的，他目睹的一个例子，我想他学习” ？请确认您是步行您的谈话。
虽然它的当然从来没有为时已晚开始，我们越早开始，更好的机会，我们有防止阴险的，宽容的态度，从把握。从未有过的时候，这是最重要的是要这样做的比现在。所有最好的建设您的孩子的道德情报！
关于作者：米歇尔borba ， edd ，是国际著名的教育顾问和受援国的国家教育家奖。她介绍了讲习班，以超过75.0万世界各地的与会者。她是获奖作者20书籍，包括没有人喜欢我，每个人都讨厌我：前25位的友谊的问题和如何解决这些问题，不要给我这种态度！ ，没有更多的misbehavin '和道德建设的情报。她承认她的实际，解决方案为基础的战略，以加强儿童的行为和社会发展。她讲课，超过百万参与者，并已就精选的NPR广播电台，今天显示，早期显示，认为，福克斯和朋友， MSNBC的，和被采访的红皮书，新闻周刊，美国新闻与世界报道，和许多其他。她是一个谘询委员会，成员为家长杂志，是前课堂教师和妈妈的三倍。

水轻

快开学了,我只教儿子写了三个字(词)

自学
他的名字(幼儿园的时候教过,现在竟然忘了)
宽容

因为我的急脾气,儿子也没耐心
跟小朋友一起,动不动指责别人应该这样,不应该那样
对别人总是有意见
虽然我对别人都是宽容的,大度的,偏偏儿子这里不够宽容
估计我得自己改才能引导儿子改

xvjianting

行为学习比知识学习更重要

笑傲红尘

唉!自己看吧,懒得费劲.翻译吧,实在不敢恭维

xvjianting

耐心