教女心得

lianganfan

女儿四岁半，中文和英文阅读都能达到小二水平。 谢谢论坛各位朋友的无私奉献，从论坛获得很多资料和建议。想必很多本轮坛的孩子都很厉害吧。个人觉得七田真或杜曼在孩子很小时作用大。我女儿一岁多会背的乘法口诀，唐诗等很多现在都忘了， 而当时即使她不懂也会背，机械记忆非常了得。 若要保持长久的记忆，只有重复重复再重复， 这跟年龄多大没关系。 当然小孩子记得比大人快，但我说的是持续性。不要说我在教女儿的时候也学会了很多中英文儿歌， 我婆婆， 只上过两年小学， 帮我照顾孩子，她都会26个英文字母，还会ORANGE， APPLE, YELLOW, GREEN, PAPAYA, TRIANGLE, CIRCLE 等等很多单词。 所以说只要从现在做起，每个人都有能力学习新东西。

米多天使

是呀,我以前也很着急的想培养出一个聪明伶俐的宝宝,可后来觉得只要快乐的学习着就好,知知者不如乐知者,乐知者不如好知者呀

lianganfan

教女儿认字或读书给她听时，她也有不合作的时候，不敢兴趣或者说不听不听。这样让我很恼火，看着论坛上别人的孩子都会这样那样了，心里急呀！后来我想开了，比上不足，比下有余么！所以各位家长一定要有平常心，这样才能保持孩子学习的乐趣。

休闲雨

谢谢楼主的分享，我的宝宝8个月了，正在努力中。。。

jingyingguo

喜欢你的贴子

依一妈

刚刚才知道杜慢
紧张
孩子都1周1了
好帖子很仔细的读了
可是不知道该从什么地方下手
买点卡？？？还是其他？请MM指教

米奇妈妈

我女儿也爱看书,而且还爱反复的让我读同一个故事,有一天我感冒了,嗓子疼她也没放过我,我只好就同一个故事不停的念了五遍.
爱看书倒是个好习惯,可让我发愁的是,她已经十四个月了,只会叫爸爸\妈妈\哥哥\姐姐,还得看她心情好不好,再教别的什么也不学了,也不知道她不会发音还是故意跟我做对,真是郁闷死我了!

lianganfan

原帖由 gajidouma 于 2007-5-22 14:45 发表
我好像觉得这一段在unlearn what I have learned..... 楼主是个很有智慧的妈妈，希望继续分享，也不必拘泥于阅读方面。

惭愧惭愧，最近比较忙，很久没上网了，有空接着写。 祝愿各位父母孩子学习快乐，天天向上！

lianganfan

原帖由 lianganfan 于 2007-5-4 12:32 发表
女儿四岁半，中文和英文阅读都能达到小二水平。 谢谢论坛各位朋友的无私奉献，从论坛获得很多资料和建议。想必很多本轮坛的孩子都很厉害吧。个人觉得七田真或杜曼在孩子很小时作用大。我女儿一岁多会背的乘法口 ...

谢谢小兔子妈妈，我们真是知音呢！我一个多月没上网了，也请您多分享经验！

lianganfan

天才讨论终于推向了一个有用的方向, 即反省我们自己的教育方式 - 是否限制了孩子的发展. 关于DORMAN的新信息有趣又令人不安, 为自己那未成才的孩子, 也为人家那造就出来的神童. 懒妈赶紧从书柜里挖出N年前买的偷懒指南"Einstein never used falsh cards", 辛苦的打字如下, 希望大家好歹读一读, 保证不让你失望 ;) 三位作者都是研究婴儿语言发展的教授.

敲的实在太累了, 也太多了, 干脆总结如下, 细节你自己找书看吧 ;)

1) 大脑发育是百万年来进化的结果, 是为生存设计好了的,靠父母一知半解来企图"构造"智力有些天真. 很多IDEA是把有限的研究结果(很多在动物上)简化外推而来, 又被后来的新研究结果推翻. 不要拿自己孩子做实验品.

2) 大脑的SYNAPSES数目在3岁前达到最高,之后直到成人削减至一半, 这也许是所谓0-3岁关键时期的来历. 削减是为了更有效, 被削减的是不常用到的, 所以如果学了不用就跟没学一样. 而且成人以后仍有新的SYNAPSES形成, 所谓活到老学到老.

3) 过分的激发会产生注意力不集中的现象.

4) "enriched"环境发展智力的由来是一个重要的老鼠研究: 关在实验室的老鼠没有在家里养跟人玩的老鼠聪明. 但是人们忘了实验的另一半: 生长在自然的老鼠最聪明. 所以给孩子一个最自然的环境, 而不是一个人为ENRICH的环境对大脑发育最好. 相信没有人把孩子象实验室里的老鼠一样关起来 ;)

5) 大脑有两种功能, 一种与生存有关叫experience-expectant, 如视力,说话,走路等, 这些是大自然安排好了的, 到时候就会发生, 但是有一个critical period, 如果错过就不容易补上, 比如天生盲人又恢复视力的很难跟正常人一样. 另一种是experience-dependent, 如读写, 围棋等与生存无关, 这是通过一生的文化经历来学到的, 没有一个critical period. 确实早期一段时间学外语音乐学的最快, 但是这个阶段很长, 5-10岁, 而且这个window关的很慢, 后学的人不过稍慢一点.

6) 早期教育的一个问题是"crowding", 各种信息在大脑里抢SYNAPSE, 有可能把留给以后用的空电路先占了, 而影响成人以后的创造力. 这可能是"小时了了大未必佳"的最科学解释了. (ZT) As Prof. Huttenlocher acknowledges, "It may be no accident that Albert Einstein was a rather average student in his early years" allowing his brain to avoid early crowding effects.



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Two overreaching myths about brain development might actually be interfering with the nurture of our children. The first myth is that parents are brain sculptors, responsible for molding the intelligence and capabilities of their children. Parents are being told that the development of their childrens brains, which, in fact, is programmed by millions of years of evolution, can be altered in just one generation by specific lessons they provide. ...The other myth that has the Goodwins in its grip is that scientific research provides us with a manual for building better brains...
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Thankfully, a closer look at the evidence suggests that parents might not have to work so hard. As we will see, millions of years of evolution have created children who love to learn on their own - it's how nature has ensured our survival. Humankind has eaten from the tree of knowledge and continues to seek out this delicious fruit from the first moments of life - no force-feeding is necessary. Unless you are living in extreme isolation or poverty, the nature, everday environments in which families and children find themselves promote strong brian development. Children with loving parents who enjoy them, play with them, and offer guidance and suggestions as they explore their environment will be healthy, emotionally well-adjusted, and psychologically advanced.
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The spin doctors have us thinking that since the synapses are developing fast and furiously in infancy, we want to keep as many of them as possible. More is better. Bigger is better. Right? Then why does nature prune the brian by eliminating some of these precious synaptic connections? Because having 500 connections making the decision whether to turn left or right is not going to be efficient. The brain wants to be pruned in order to be quick and precise.
Connections form so quickly that by the time children are 3, their brians have twice as many synapses as they will need as adults. These trillions of synapses are competing for space in a brain that is still far from its adult size. By the age of 3, a young child's brain is apt to be more than twice as active as that of her pediatrician... The synapses shed as children grow, much like the way a snake shed its skin in order to accommodate a bigger body. Brains downsize for the same reasons so many other "organizations" do: With streamlined networks, they can function more efficiently. Pruning is a natural development. This refinement is good. ...
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...What's of special interest for the concerned parents is that synapses grow in many areas of the brain - even without stimulation from the environment. Before the eyes of rats open, for instance, synaptic growth proceeds according to its own biological timetable.

Moreover,extra stimulation is not always good. An example of "more is not always better" comes to us from the neonatal nursery. On the increasingly prevalent cultural assumption that more stimulation is better and that it is never too early to start, neonatal units used to be filled with bright lights and soothing but stimulating sounds. Scientists later found, however, that the sounds and lights of the neonatal care units were actually contributing to problems of attention deficit and hyperactivity. So now the units are darkened and softened to resemble the environment nature had intended these babies to experience - that dark and muffled place called the womb.