【分享】帮助孩子成长的150个诀窍

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 18:59:27

先贴出目录。再逐一地贴出内容，便于自己学习，也便于大家边学习边讨论啊。

行至水穷处 · 发表于 2006-8-23 18:13:03

谢谢分享。。。

大力钳 · 发表于 2006-8-21 23:38:06

人的生命活动可以分为两大部分，一部分是生存活动，这是不自由的，不想干是不行的，法律上叫做“不劳动者不得食”。还有一部分是自由活动，是可以用来做这些，了可以用来做那些的，是用来展示生命、丰富生命、发挥生命潜力，发扬人的真善美品性，实现人的生命价值的，就是我们通常所说的人的全面发展，人生的意义与幸福。而自由活动的前提就是必须有自由时间。自由时间是完成了自下而上活动后剩下的时间，它完全由个人自主支配、自由支配，不能由别人作主，更不能被别人强制支配。 做父母的、做老师的，我们可以想想，我们所以要让孩子受教育，就是为了使他们真正成为人，或者换句话说，使他们实现人的解放，真正成为人的资源，享有人的幸福，发出人的光芒。如果我们把孩子们的自由时间都弄没了，不是在做南辕北辙的事嘛！

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 19:49:21

<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">10<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">．<a name="10">[/url]即使你不喜欢他所干的事情，也要让他知道你爱他<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">孩子们似乎很难理解这一点，但是如果你反复强调，他会明白的。告诉他：“我永远喜欢你、爱你，即使我不喜欢你正在于的事。”上千次重复之后，他会理解你的意思的。

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 19:48:53

<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">9<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">．<a name="9">[/url]鼓励好奇心<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">孩子们天性好奇，不过如果一个孩子总在发问、总在剖析事物、总在添乱，作为他的老师、父母和兄弟姐妹就会不胜其烦。但是好奇心是成功的重要因素，因为它可以促使一个人想得更深入一些，做得更多一些。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">找一些方法和时间鼓励你孩子的好奇心。他问你问题时，不要说“我不知道”，反过来问一下他是怎么想的。也许在他查找答案时，你能抽出时间查百科全书或上网查询，与他谈论他查找的结果，提出可以使他思考的问题。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">针对他好奇的事物，去图书馆借几本相关的书，或作为礼物给他几本书。在书中找到事物发生发展的原因，鼓励他研究他感兴趣的事，然后让他给你解释，研究你感兴趣的事、然后解释给他听。

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 19:48:13

<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">8<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">．<a name="8">[/url]帮助他理解阅读内容<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">阅读的第二步就是理解和记住他读到的内容。如果他还年幼，让他自己阅读，然后把他读到的故事讲给你听。问他故事的主题是什么，如果他不明白或说错了，不要急于告诉他答案，而是要提出可促使他思考的问题。尽量使这一过程活泼有趣，使他感到自己聪明机灵。想办法让他盼望这样的阅读时刻。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">大—点的孩子可以阅读散文，鼓励他先快速浏览一章，阅读它的标题和副标题。然后问他这章会讲述什么。然后让他阅读散文，注意他猜想的内容是否正确。这会帮助他在每一片段后停下来，大声说出他谈到的内容。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">他也可以做笔记，尤其是有大量人名和地名需要记住的时候。每当一章结束后，让他做笔记记下他学到的内容。帮助他揣摩老师：让他想一想，老师对这篇文章会提出什么问题<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">他将怎样回答<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">你和他练习几次后，他会自己做好这些步骤。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">如果你有一丝担心他需要帮助，那么立刻行动吧，不要幻想他会自己赶上。在三年级以前，课堂时间都用来学习阅读，但是到了四年级就有转变，孩子们需要自己阅读学习。根据哈佛教育学院的观点，孩子如果阅读不好的话，到了四年级没有课外指导，学习就会跟不上。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">如果你发现孩子阅读有困难，告诉他的老师。如果你得不到满意的回答，或者老师的努力不见效，就与校长谈一谈。此外，抽一点时间与他一起阅读，我一些他会喜欢的书，让他帮你读标签和处方。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">确定你的孩子是视觉型的，还是听觉型的，或者是肌肉运动型的，然后以他的方式与他沟通。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">人们理解和储存信息有三种方式：视觉的、听觉的和肌肉运动的<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">(<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">通过触觉<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">)<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">。我们都会运用这三种方式，但是有一种感觉居主导地位。所以，听觉型的人听东西的时候会学得更好，视觉型的人看东西时会记得最好，而运动型的人动手做事时学习效果最好。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">你发现孩子的感觉特长后，可以帮助孩子更加成功，能够以他的方式指导他。如果你告诉他做某事，他也确实注意听了，结果在完成任务过程中，他却忘记了下一步该做什么，或者完全忘记了你交给的任务。那么，他就可能是视觉型的或运动型的，不明白或记不住语音命令。一个解决的办法就是要求他做菜事时给他写条。你应该把让他做的家务写在使条上，而不是把他叫过来，告诉他做什么家务。<span

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 19:05:32

<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">7<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">．<a name="7">[/url]鼓励他阅读<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">不阅读的人不可能成功。在学校里学习的每一种知识都需要相应的阅读。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">如果他整天忙碌没时间阅读怎么办<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">让他晚半小时睡觉来阅读。在他确实上床后预留半个小时，经他同意，把应该阅读的书带上床，不许起床。否则在他看书时，也许会因为一个玩具走神。只有那些渴望阅读的孩子，才会同意为了阅读早上床半小时。父母如果坚持让孩子早上床半小时，只会使孩子厌恶阅读。晚睡的这半小时会吸引孩子阅读，因为剩下只有选择睡觉。而且由于阅读是一种放松活动，它不会真正占用睡眠时间。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">养成一同去图书馆的习馈，使这段时间充满乐趣，并让他挑选几本书。或者你自己去图书馆挑选一些你认为他会喜欢的书借回来。要寻找有大量图片的书，或者有动人故事的书，有他喜爱的体育明星或电影明星的传记，培养他对时事的兴趣。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">给他一些奇闻趣事书，书中有他最喜爱的偶像。确实，这没有什么教育意义，但可以帮助他阅读。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">让他看到你如何喜爱一本书或杂志，有时可以在人们读书的地方吃一顿饭。给他一份杂志订单作为礼物，开辟一个角落让他能够躲在里面读书。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">如果他要求你读给他听，就在他心情好的时候抽空给他读书。如果你正在做晚饭，就可以让他读给你听，给他写信，鼓励他给你回信；找一些带阅读的电脑游戏；在他的卧室或其他地方给他留有趣的便条，使他早晨可以发现；请求他帮助你阅读各种操作手册和说明书；尽量不打断他或纠正他。建立自信、帮助他喜欢读书是你的目标，圆满的结果会到来的

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 19:04:46

<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">6<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">．<a name="6">[/url]营造明智冒险的气氛<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">鼓励你的孩子对明智冒险感到轻松愉快，这需要你在他尝试新事物时支持他，即使你明知道行不通。此外，还需要赞赏他的尝试，即使他没有成功。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">成功者是那些愿意尝试新东西的人，那些东西其他人一般不愿或不能尝试。在他迈出第一步之前，帮助他考虑整个情况。信念是重要的，但是成功依赖于计划。当他有一个冒险计划时，你应该问他：哪种情况会出错<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">他为了防止这些可能情况的发生做了什么准备<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">当计划失败时，可能发生的最坏的事是什么<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">有时，你觉得简单的事对孩子来说就是冒险。打电话查一个电话号码对他来说可能是冒险的，因为他不知道怎么做。鼓励他仔细检查每一步，思考什么会出错，然后考虑怎样做避免出错。有时，你觉得危险的事，他做起来却轻松自如。如果你让他告诉你他决定采取的每一个步骤，他就会让你更放心。

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 19:04:03

<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">5<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">．<a name="5">[/url]尝试减少不必要的规矩<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">孩子与成人一样，愿意感到他们可以控制自己的生活：你应该试着减少一些家里的规矩，留下真正重要的规矩。如果规矩太多，你的孩子会很难记住并全部遵守它们，而且你记住它们也不容易，更何况用它们督促孩子呢<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">? <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">隔一段时间，你就要重新审视为孩子定下的那些规矩，想一想为什么定下这样的规矩。这些规矩对他的安全重要吗<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">这些规矩会帮助他进入快乐、积极、有责任感的少年和成人时期吗<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">或者，这些规矩是不是你从父母、家庭、朋友、邻居那儿学到的，只是因为它们听起来有道理<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">你是不是花费许多时间来监督孩子遵守它们<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">? <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">有些规矩是必需的，但是只有规矩不太多的时候，才会更加显示出规矩的重要性。当你只有几个重要的规矩，并且坚定不移地督促孩子遵守它们，他才会明白你希望他怎样做，才会更愿意合作。

qianlimamama · 发表于 2006-8-12 19:03:39

<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">4<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">．<a name="4">[/url]不要总说：“好吧，我告诉你……，有时要问：“我想知道如果你……，你怎么办<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">”<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">如果你的孩子从小就由你告诉他如何做所有的事，这的确是一个令人着迷的习惯。你的方法使你感觉良好，而且绝大多数时候比他自己摸索着干会更快更好。但是，当你说：“我想知道……”，你就是在帮助孩子思考，帮助他探究各种可能性。当你让他考虑各种可能性时，可以表明你对他感兴趣，你有时间与他一起度过。这是非常美妙的时刻，你们都会学到新的东西。<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA"> <span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">如果因为你太露忙而错过许多机会，那么，在你开车或晚上陷他时再问那个问题吧——“如果你……怎么办<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">?<span style="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman"">”

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