【转帖】如何与孩子沟通

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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">您重视的是孩子还是自己呢？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">每一位父母都想与孩子保持零距离，能很好的沟通。尊重是沟通的前提，而您重视谁便会很尊重他。您重视的是孩子还是自己呢？以下有一些提问，家长可以试试回答：</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">1</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您有意识地去启发和培养孩子的创造性思维了吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">2</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您曾经细心观察、耐心倾听了孩子的欢乐与痛苦、梦想与烦恼了吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">3</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您能让孩子承担一定的家务并参与家庭的重要决策吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">4</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您用心感受到了孩子的愿望与要求了吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">5</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您只想</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">认真等待</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">孩子的学习成绩吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">6</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您希望让孩子来帮助您完成未圆的梦吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">7</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您能妥当地等待孩子的朋友吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">8</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、您会用各种条例里约束孩子成为</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">听话</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">的好孩子吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">9</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、当孩子受到伤害的时候您安慰他了吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">10</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">、如果您错怪了孩子，您能做到当面向孩子道歉并认错吗？</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">以上的提问如果您的答案肯定的多，恭喜您，你是一个教合格的家长，希望您能继续加油；如果您的肯定的</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">少，那家长您需要警惕，您应该好好想一想孩子的成长，希望您能成为一个注重孩子成长的父母</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Verdana; mso-hansi-font-family: Verdana">。</span>