呵呵，我儿子小时候基本干得都是这些事，他是他们幼儿园公认的最开心的人。记得有个妈妈对我说：我每次看见你儿子都是灿烂的笑脸。然后一张白纸进了小学，然后就比较吃力，现在明显笑脸少些了

谢谢分享
打印下来了
希望有些东西能进到心里

悠悠 发表于 2013-11-8 16:30
看到大家在群里讨论，儿教为什么这么冷清

我很高兴有人关注我们的冷清。

你还真的说到我心上去了，我在想，啥时候儿教热闹了，我估计就不愿意在这里了，都是水，找不到自己想看的东西了。

这里的妈妈，有的是孩子很牛的，自己难得有时间上来聊天，有的很空，会胡思乱想一些东西，哈。孩子的教育，我还是觉得要“顺”，快乐的心灵，是人生的永远动力，不会怨天尤人，不会去伤害别人和自己。

看到大家在群里讨论，儿教为什么这么冷清

我很高兴有人关注我们的冷清。
也很高兴看到这种反对早教的文章，在儿教一篇一篇的贴出来，有市场。
的确是小众。

因为，关注孩子如何学习、学好的父母，多半会去积极的寻找各种路数，以孩子学成为目标。
真正关心孩子的身心发育，愿意在养育孩子的过程中“叛逆”自己自小受到的传统教育方式，努力寻找更科学的教育方法，这样的路走起来非常艰难（因为不符合经济效益，这方面的文章总会湮没于大众化的“哈佛女孩”、“卡尔维特”之类的出版物里连个泡都很难冒出来）。
这样的小众，能有个地方碰头，努力与孩子一起成长。。。
嗯，冷清一点，我觉得也蛮好。

陪着孩子一起成长是家长的一种幸福.我很庆幸我有这种幸福.

我现在最不后悔的，是0~6岁花了大量时间陪孩子玩。

看了文章，感触蛮深的，是我们不懂爱，是我们怎样做父母，以后少发怒，平常心看孩子！

这老师说的是真好，就是不要随便的愤怒，这样指不定会伤到谁。

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原文：

I was on a parenting bulletin board recently and read a post by a mother who was worried that her 4 1/2 year old did not know enough. “What should a 4 year old know?” she asked.

Most of the answers left me not only saddened but pretty soundly annoyed. One mom posted a laundry list of all of the things her son knew. Counting to 100, planets, how to write his first and last name, and on and on. Others chimed in with how much more their children already knew, some who were only three. A few posted URL’s to lists of what each age should know. The fewest yet said that each child develops at his own pace and not to worry.

It bothered me greatly to see these mothers responding to a worried mom by adding to her concern, with lists of all the things their children could do that hers couldn’t. We are such a competitive culture that even our pre-schoolers have become trophies and bragging rights. Childhood shouldn’t be a race.

So here, I offer my list of what a 4 year old should know.

She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally, all of the time.

He should know that he is safe and he should know how to keep himself safe in public, with others, and in varied situations. He should know that he can trust his instincts about people and that he never has to do something that doesn’t feel right, no matter who is asking. He should know his personal rights and that his family will back them up.

She should know how to laugh, act silly, be goofy and use her imagination. She should know that it is always okay to paint the sky orange and give cats 6 legs.

He should know his own interests and be encouraged to follow them. If he could care less about learning his numbers, his parents should realize he’ll learn them accidentally soon enough and let him immerse himself instead in rocket ships, drawing, dinosaurs or playing in the mud.

She should know that the world is magical and that so is she. She should know that she’s wonderful, brilliant, creative, compassionate and marvellous. She should know that it’s just as worthy to spend the day outside making daisy chains, mud pies and fairy houses as it is to practice phonics. Scratch that– way more worthy.

But more important, here’s what parents need to know.

That every child learns to walk, talk, read and do algebra at his own pace and that it will have no bearing on how well he walks, talks, reads or does algebra.

That the single biggest predictor of high academic achievement and high ACT scores is reading to children. Not flash cards, not workbooks, not fancy preschools, not blinking toys or computers, but mom or dad taking the time every day or night (or both!) to sit and read them wonderful books.

That being the smartest or most accomplished kid in class has never had any bearing on being the happiest. We are so caught up in trying to give our children “advantages” that we’re giving them lives as multi-tasked and stressful as ours. One of the biggest advantages we can give our children is a simple, carefree childhood.

That our children deserve to be surrounded by books, nature, art supplies and the freedom to explore them. Most of us could get rid of 90% of our children’s toys and they wouldn’t be missed, but some things are important– building toys like lego and blocks, creative toys like all types of art materials (good stuff), musical instruments (real ones and multicultural ones), dress up clothes and books, books, books. (Incidentally, much of this can be picked up quite cheaply at thrift shops.) They need to have the freedom to explore with these things too– to play with scoops of dried beans in the high chair (supervised, of course), to knead bread and make messes, to use paint and play dough and glitter at the kitchen table while we make supper even though it gets everywhere, to have a spot in the yard where it’s absolutely fine to dig up all the grass and make a mud pit.

That our children need more of us. We have become so good at saying that we need to take care of ourselves that some of us have used it as an excuse to have the rest of the world take care of our kids. Yes, we all need undisturbed baths, time with friends, sanity breaks and an occasional life outside of parenthood. But we live in a time when parenting magazines recommend trying to commit to 10 minutes a day with each child and scheduling one Saturday a month as family day. That’s not okay! Our children don’t need Nintendos, computers, after school activities, ballet lessons, play groups and soccer practice nearly as much as they need US. They need fathers who sit and listen to their days, mothers who join in and make crafts with them, parents who take the time to read them stories and act like idiots with them. They need us to take walks with them and not mind the .1 MPH pace of a toddler on a spring night. They deserve to help us make supper even though it takes twice as long and makes it twice as much work. They deserve to know that they’re a priority for us and that we truly love to be with them.