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【转帖】家庭教育十大原则
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作者:
niemov
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2006-7-20 09:31
标题:
【转帖】家庭教育十大原则
<font face="宋体"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"></span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第一、平等原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 心理学研究证明:孩子与父母平等的争辩,不仅是互爱的一促体现,而且能够帮助孩子树立信心,明辩是非,丰富想象力和创造力。而</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">独裁</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">对孩子人格的影响是灾难性的。许多家长觉得辛辛苦苦赚钱养孩子,孩子就应该听自己的,必须服从自己。这种观念应该改变,要把孩子看做是与自己平等的人。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第二、尊重原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 我们尊重孩子,孩子才能尊重我们,有的家长只希望孩子对自己言听计从,而不能有自己的观点或者申辩一下,否就对孩子大声训斥。这种孩子长大后很可能是一个人云亦云的人,没有自己的观点。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第三、感情交流原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 很多家长错误地认为:</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">有书你读,有饭你吃,有衣服你穿,还想什么?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">但人的成长不但需要物质,也有精神、情感的需要。家长忽略孩子的精神、情感需要,孩子和家长就没话说。长期下去,儿女和家长相处会变得越来越尴尬。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第四、自由原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 很多家长把孩子管得很严,却往往吃力不讨好,甚至引起悲剧。应相信孩子的能力,给孩子一个自由发展的空间。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第五、统一原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 家庭的教育要和学校统一,否则孩子无所适从。另外,家庭成员之间教育的观念要一致,否则孩子不知道听谁的,结果就谁的都不听。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第六、榜样原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 家长是孩子第一个模仿的对象,家长一定要做好榜样,别在孩子幼小的心灵里种下不良的种子。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第七、信任原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 谎言是从不信任中来的。如果你从孩子小时就很信任他(她),孩子就没有说谎的必要。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第八、宽容原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 人非圣人,孰能无过?孩子在成长的过程中,自然会经常犯错误。家长应该宽容地对待,大可不必</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">小错大骂,大错木棒侍候</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第九、鼓励原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 许多家长有个坏习惯,当孩子取得好成绩时便说:</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">是不是偷看来的?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">当孩子成绩差时又说:</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">“</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">你从来都是这样差的。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma">”</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体">尽管是很随意的一句话,却大大伤害了孩子的心。在家庭生活中,应该多鼓励孩子。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 第十、方法转变原则。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"><font face="宋体"> 教育方法要随孩子的年龄的增大而不断改变。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><font face="宋体"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma"> 总之,不管你采取什么方法来教育孩子,只要让你的孩子感到生活很幸福,很愉快,健康,乐观,(她)富有爱心,充满信心,对前途满怀希望,那么,你就是成功的家长。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 9.5pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><span lang="EN-US"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"></span>
作者:
djw
时间:
2006-11-22 11:21
说得好,但我就是不容易做到.这是习惯和性格决定的.
作者:
潼潼她爸
时间:
2007-1-31 20:02
这么多的原则 孩子怎么办啊
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